i love my husband very much but just recently i caught him snogging sombody else. he says because our marriage isn't exciting enough. i thought we were fine its him who never shows any interest. we've only been married less than a year and have a 6 month baby. please help!!!!
2007-01-16 01:35:04 · 11 answers · asked by xblue-printx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your husband is selfish. Your marriage is where it needs to be right now. You have a 6month old baby. Your marriage is not supposed to be all fun and games right now. Your husband should be mature enough to know this. Saying that it is his job to place the energy into your relationship and not into someone else.
Keep a close eye on this guy. He's a jerk.
2007-01-16 01:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I won't be asking you to do anything crazy of whatever sums mentioned. You write to him express your anger about him snogging somebody else. Go on and say that you are sorry and that your marriage with him is not exciting enough. If you don't know what he is not happy with ask him to be open to you in this area so that you can work it out with him. If you know make some suggestions of how you can improve it.
Third paragraph tell him you care about your marriage with him.
Tell him that you love him and is willing to work this out with him.
Is not easy to say in a marriage. You both need to communicate your expectations of each other...and once you know what each others expectations...think of ways to meet them. If can't tell him to give you sometime.
Deal with the problem and sway away from it. I can suggest a short cut that is for separation but no way will i ask u to choose that path. Cos you are never going to solve the root problem and as such similar problems might happen again.
2007-01-16 10:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Joanne k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when you got married you should have wait a few years, then make children.......spending time together alone make a marriage closer, you both hardly had time to bond...... Now you have a baby make it hard for both of you, cause i'm sure all your attention is focus on the child. If once every two week you and your husband can go out make it a date....... let someone close look after the baby.......
try to look sexy for your husband get back in shape, make him want you and no one else.
let him take care of the baby on his day's off, let him see you are a hard working mom....
2007-01-16 09:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you 2 have a bad start if you all ready seeing this signs is not good, i don't think people get bored of sex they get bored of the person they having sex with, they feel is not necessary to impress what you need is a fresh start but since he all ready snogging give him something to get excited about a nice late nite bath with fizzles and scented candles some wine and romantic music, make him wait don't go all the way take your time and explore each other get comfortable and arouse then after a good foreplay have some s*x talk to him while you 2 having sex asking if he loves you and if he wants you fill him up with desire and attention but never forget to ask for yours, and have alot of fun****
2007-01-16 09:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The blame for this situation is 50-50. Maybe the newborn has all your attention. Some times males are like babies and they get jealous. Both of you need to do your best if you want this mar rage to work out. My opinion you were not ready for such commitment.
2007-01-16 09:55:19 · answer #5 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well friend start getting sexy with the sexy mini and high heels and maybe a movie with all the trimmings on u know what l mean so good luck tc .
2007-01-16 09:39:22 · answer #6 · answered by pirateron 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn and do something together.Always try something new even in bed!You can wear costume too.Sometimes it's good to try doing it in other places.Learn some sensual massage or stripping.And make sure you look and smell good!Because sometimes wives tend to smell like garlic and forget to dress up for their husbands.
2007-01-16 09:43:53 · answer #7 · answered by ranya j 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be true to yourself. Do everything that makes you happy and your happiness will rubbed on him. people loves to be around happy people. its like light attract light.
so starts taking care of yourself. do all the things that makes you feel good. go for massages, makeup classes and make friends and give compliment to everything you see. the whole perception of how you see things will change and your husband will notice how exciting and beautiful you are
He will definately hang around you more.
take care and good luck
2007-01-16 09:42:37 · answer #8 · answered by Yiahor 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW, only a year and already bored???
sounds like you need a serious boost... :D 3sum, 4sum, bondage, swinging, dogging... or get online and get yourself some more fun... :D
2007-01-16 09:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Threaten to leave him and file for child support. Then he'll find interest in you.
2007-01-16 09:42:17 · answer #10 · answered by Mami-Chula 2 · 3⤊ 3⤋