realistic answers please and thank you
2007-01-16 01:28:38 · 23 answers · asked by se-se 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends on how long you have been waiting for him. I'm sure it's hard to leave the woman of your child, but if he's really in love with you, he would do it.
If you feel like he's just dragging you along, then he probably is.
2007-01-16 01:32:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♡twitchy♡ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you said you "feel" so is this your own insecurities or does he flat out tell you that? Either way first off, you need to discuss this with him, you then should get a honest response for what you're looking for .If he does have a hard time choosing Don't even bother with him anymore, harsh as it may seem to say and hear, they have a child, it's a heck of a strong bond to have with someone. You deserve better then that. Now, again if you just feel like that, Please don't, it will only cause serious issues with you and him, he will never fully chose you over this child.. think about when you were a child would you have wanted your father or mother to ever make you feel that way? He also will only recent you for it.Chances are he wants his child to feel loved by both of it's parents, so he's very kind to the mom. Talk to him, if you love each other and you can love his child as much as him, all will work out for you. Good luck to you.
2007-01-16 09:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by dntwannahearurshlt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one.
Your BF's baby's mother will always be a part of your bf's life(and yours, so long as you're with him). There's no avoiding that one. To an extent, I'd say you have to be somewhat supportive in that he's playing a role in his child's life. It's hard to be- because you'll want his attention and 100% devotion. But in reality, the child comes first (as he/she should). Get what I'm saying? There aren't too many guys out there nowaday's who honor their responsibilities. A lot of men turn their back on them (Learned that first hand).
Communicate with your boyfriend (in a constructive, well thought out manner) about how you feel. Try to amend the situation best you can. If you're really happy with him- things will be fine and you'll find a way to make things work. Always try to keep the child's best interests in the front of your mind.
2007-01-16 09:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he is stringing you both along, I think I would have to make the decision for him and say bye-bye. Remember that if he chooses you, the baby's mama is still going to be in your lives because they have a child together. Stop waiting around for this guy to choose. Get out of there and find a man who is interested in you and doesn't have so much baggage.
2007-01-16 11:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel about the situation. If he is not willing to understand how you feel about this then I'd move on. You have to understand that his baby's mama is a part of his life no matter what because of the child. If he is still having a relationship with her that is more than you are comfortable with, you need to confront him about it and move on if he doesn't make a choice that you are happy with.
2007-01-16 09:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Angela F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't choose than in my opinion, he's actually made the decision..... he won't chose you. You deserve better, someone who loves you and puts you first. Obviously the baby mama has some sort of hold on him and that won't ever end. You should never settle for less than you deserve!
2007-01-16 09:42:43 · answer #6 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wate your time wondering.If hes making it a hard decision then thats how its always ganna be wether its you or some other girl.I have a son with this guy and we were together for 7 yrs but for some reason i caught him numerous times cheating onme with his other baby mamma.But he swore he loved me.Theres some guys out there that think just cuz theyre their baby mamma that theyre always theirs.Dont even give him the chance to choose.Bcuz even if he does choose you there will always be that "baby mamma drama".AND YOU DONT WANT THAT.......BELEIVE ME!!
2007-01-16 09:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are talking about his mother . . . you shouldn't be asking him to chose. While you may not understand what his mother is doing, she has obviously known him longer and loves him more than you ever could. When you have a child, you will understand why.
I suggest you find some place within her parameters that you can fit into, otherwise find some other guy.
2007-01-16 09:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't refer to her as "his baby mom." That is moronic and annoying.
Beyond that, give him an ultimatum, and dump him if he can't choose you. A strong emotional attachment is to be expected between people with a child together, and it's something that will always be there, but he should still be able to committ to you.
2007-01-16 09:32:46 · answer #9 · answered by emily_brown18 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is going to be "involved" with his baby's mom for the rest of his life. They have a child together, and will always have a "parent" relationship.
If he can't choose to be simply a friend to her, I would get out of the relationship asap.
2007-01-16 09:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by LG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋