I recently found an old friend of mine on myspace by contacting one of our mutual friends.
The issues is... about 10 years ago we had a terrible falling out. I said and did things that I'm not proud of. She wasn't exactly an angel either about the situation.
I'm afraid that if I reconnect with her that I will end up confronting an old boyfriend. She introduced me to this guy. He was abusive and toward the end of our relationship he ...........
I can't bring myself to finish that thought. While I don't blame her for his actions I'm worried I might have to deal with him again.
Any advice?
2007-01-16 01:10:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dont do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, i know the situation as long gone but obviously the pain is still there for you, dont do ANYTHING that will make you feel minor to anyone and if you happy with your life and the way things are running, dont do anything to change it jsut carry on! besides ifshe was that good of a mate she would of been there for you all them years ago, people dont change they jsut grow up and act more responsible if she wasnt there for you then nothing would of changed, and by the sounds of things shes trying to put you in a accord posistion anyway just enjoy left and forget you ever got in contact with her.
Be strong and dnt let anyone make you feel less then what you are!
good luck babe
Chel x
2007-01-16 01:18:29 · answer #1 · answered by Chel1525 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face the past and learn from it. Almost the same thing happened to me, but not quite. I was in an abusive ( and I mean, ABUSIVE ) marriage. I fought and used my right to seek employment. I was working on my advertising route when I ran into my ex bf from 10 years ago while he was out grocery shopping. This store is in my neighborhood and, amazingly, so was he. We talked, and got together just to spend some time reconnecting, no sex involved at that time. Well, he found out what was going on in my life, saw the bruises on my body (arms and legs), saw the time that my ex bruised my face, and saw my ankle in a cast. He encouraged me to get out, and I did. Now, I met him 10 year ago. After marriage, that lasted 5 years, I hadn't spoken to him. We had an argument as well. We talked it out after I decided to divorce my husband. Now we are dating again, and becuase the years have matured us for the most part, are able to talk out differences instead of fighting like children. I would say to give your friend a chance because the two of you may have matured into wiser people over the years. You never know what the future may bring, and if you ever hear about their death, you might feel guilt over never having resolved these issues.
2007-01-16 01:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if u have to face that guy again, just be courageous and u dont need
to feel guilty or whatever... u just pretend that u have forgotten everything
which happened and anyway people change with time... so dont worry...
2007-01-16 01:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by Rose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave it alone. let the past be in the past and move on.
2007-01-16 01:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by snottercat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋