it ws an accident so cant blame enyone
bt i slept with my frnds husband n now i am 5 weeks preg.we want to tell her bt she is preg too [8 months]
what to do...........???
2007-01-16 01:07:59 · 21 answers · asked by neha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
better abort the baby ....as if u wont ...that can create prb with ur frnds married life
2007-01-16 01:11:57 · answer #1 · answered by sweetypie 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You accidentally slept with your friend's husband? Yes, I'm sure you meant the pregnancy was an accident, but I hope you get my point. The fact that you did it in the first place is what is going to hit her the hardest. Even if you choose to abort the baby, it doesn't change that fact. Both you and her husband have betrayed her in the worst possible way. How very sad for you all. Severe emotional strain could harm her pregnancy and you should be careful of that. But it is not fair to let her go on thinking that all is ok. This is not something that will just go away. She will have to be told and you will both have to face the consequences. Perhaps it could wait until after her baby is born. But keeping from her much longer will just make it worse.
2007-01-16 09:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, for the time being I agree its an accident! Now what u want to do? Make it a mess for three lives? If tell ur friend, exactly that will happen. So, decide if you can carry on as single mother or not. If no, simply abort. It may be inhuman, but it will save ur relation and future humiliation of the baby.
2007-01-16 13:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by dnagsarkar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a mess! This is not an accident. You and you're friend's husband is to blame! You are adults and should be ashamed! She is about to have her baby, so don't tell her about this. Stay away from her and her husband! After her baby is born tell her husband he must tell her or you will. She needs to know what kind of person she is married to. If you are married, tell your husband and when your baby is born I'm sure he'll want a paternity test. You have options, check them out quickly. Stop making excuses, grow up, take responsibility and stay out of their lives. Concentrate on making better decisions. Good Luck!
2007-01-16 09:24:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now this is what I call best friends…
She gets pregnant and so do you,
Wow! It’s with the same guy too.
Now you are asking. “What to do?”
Honey, I accept that this was an accident…it was certainly not meant to happen. Sometimes too much friendship mixed with too much wine makes us step out of line. One thing is clear don’t tell her now it could kill her and her baby. Don’t tell her ever…what good can it do? As far as you are concerned you have no option but to abort. Now get on with your lives as if nothing happened and make sure that nothing continues between you and her husband.
2007-01-16 17:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do is put it off. The longer you wait, the harder it's going to be to tell her.
Are you in love her husband? I think you need to sit down with him and find out how he feels about it and what he wants to do. Does he want to be with you or her?
Then figure out what you want and what you're going to do.
Sit her down and explain to her the situation, if she asks you to leave her alone, then do so. Respect whatever wishes she has.
If she and her husband decide to work things out together, I would stay out it from that point on. If he wants to see both of you sexually, refuse. Unless everyone agrees on an open relationship, I see no way for everyone here to win.
2007-01-16 09:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by ♡twitchy♡ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An accident is when you bump into someone not when you sleep with your best friends husband. ;o( It's obvious she's going to have to know but i"m not to sure it would be a great idea to tell her before her baby is born. Let the poor woman have her baby and then you and him will have to figure how to handle it.
2007-01-16 09:13:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how could be it an accident ?? you are saying that she is your best friend. then how could you do this. you havent thought about her.If she is your best friend then go and tell her after her baby is born. if you will not tell ,i dont think so you can live happily. you have done a big mistake and you have to pay for it. 1st you talk to her husband and take a proper decision. But plz dont think about abortion. what is the mistake of your baby.Its your mistake so you only have to pay... May God help you.
ALL THE BEST FOR YOUR FUTURE.... TAKE A RIGHT DECISSION .......
2007-01-16 11:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Friangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey this is not accident u can not so irresponsible ...u r calling this an accident u r so clever i think ........shame on u .u r not her friend u r her enemy it seems ...u r worst friend ever..does ur friends husband know about u...u just stay away 4rm their life wt do u want to do u have to decide yourself .if u r a good friend then get out from their life as soon as possible and never come back...
2007-01-16 09:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by jagrati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him first. Ask him if he will be there for you, and your baby. If not, tell him that you will be the best mother for the baby and you will keep him out of it.
Do you think that telling your friend will achieve any good? Telling your friend about what you and her husband did will cause their marriage to end abruptly. Not only you will lose her friendship, you will be destroying them as a family.
2007-01-16 09:22:43 · answer #10 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but having sex with someone is never an accident. It takes two people and the two of you are to blame. You need to tell your friend and good luck, I hope she blows both of you off.
2007-01-16 09:12:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋