I grew up in a very mmixed area and went to culturally diverse highs chools and colleges and graduate schools. I have dated ( not slept with) many men. I find that ehite men are the most controlling and sexist., african men are the most domineering, latino men make me laugh the most and don't take too much seriously, black men are affectionate and like to tease and asian men make the bext dinner dates because they have something interesting to talk about. OK. Start killing me but aren't most stereotypes based in fact? I was married to a white man and then a black one so this does not affect loving someone or not.
2007-01-16 01:03:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First, stereotypes aren't based on facts. THAT'S WHY THEY'RE CALLED STEREOTYPES! Ugh.
Secondly, some of the comparissons you make have more to do with differences in culture and upbringing that what you put forth as "fact."
1. I seriously dated one white man, currently married to one. The guy I dated was the least controlling of any man I'd dated, and had issues that were universal to guys. While our racial differences weren't an issue while we dated, I guess he got so comfortable with me that he let a comment slip that pretty much ended it. My husband is a man I would have married if he'd been green, pink, Italian or Amazonian because he had the qualities I was looking for a good man.
2. African men have a very different perspective on women because women in their countries are not held in high regard (OK, like here only worse). I would say that from my own experience African men were the most controlling; I've always been financially independent, traveled independently and very capable. It seemed like the African men I dealt with personally or professionally were always trying to "tame" me. I find that unappealing in any man (or woman) of any race.
3. My experience with Latino men is somewhat similar to yours; I think they're very charming (at least the older ones). Of course they don't take too much seriously because relationships outside of marriage or committed relationships are the norm in many Latin countries. That's cool if you're into that, but it's not my style.
4. The majority of my dating experience has been with black men. My experience with them is that they run the gammut in terms of the qualites that most men possess (yeah, charm, control, sexist, etc.) but in varying degrees-- the commonality is history, and it's impact on how we live and how we see ourselves as black people.
There are qualities that are universal to men, regardless of race or culture. Some qualities are accented more heavily because of country, culture or religion. But to say that stereotypes are based on fact is a little like saying that all American men are the same. We all know that's not true.
2007-01-16 01:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wouldn't the african men and the black men be the same?
White men: some are controlling and sexist. Some are anything goes. Some are idiots, some are the nicest you will ever find. Some are dominering, some make you laugh and some make the best dinner dates.
Black & African men: some are domineering. some are affectionate and like to tease. some are controlling and sexist. some are anything goes. some are idiots and some are the nicest you will ever find. some make you laugh and some make the best dinner dates.
Latino men: some make you laugh.: some are domineering. some are affectionate and like to tease. some are controlling and sexist. some are anything goes. some are idiots and some are the nicest you will ever find. and some make the best dinner dates.
Asian men: some make the best dinner dates. some make you laugh.: some are domineering. some are affectionate and like to tease. some are controlling and sexist. some are anything goes. some are idiots and some are the nicest you will ever find
Grow up, get a life that does not involve dating based on raced.
Come back when you have an experience with an alien to throw into this mix.
2007-01-16 09:16:10 · answer #2 · answered by siriusblackpearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asian guys do have great conversations. I have been dating them as of the lst couple of years. To me white guys arent aggressive enough. They tend to over flatter and compliment when they like you. Black men dont live up to their responsibilites, so their isnt much security with a Black men. They have it really hard on society so the added pressure usually makes them give up and get a white girl to take care of them. Sad but true. Latino guys are sexy as hell, but they dont really catch my attention mentally. I havent ever really had an intellectual conversation with a Latino guy. E. Indians guys are my choice for right now, but they have some cultural issues that I dont like to contend with as far as religion and how much influenve their families have in their life. Other than that, they are cool and very interesting. The will treat you very lady like and polite on dates.
2007-01-16 09:13:20 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you are mental... dated whites guys but not slept with, ut married a white guy???
are you just a racist attention seeker???
2007-01-16 09:08:32 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, another long story
2007-01-16 09:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by helpmegetaname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so whats ur point? what do u want?
2007-01-16 09:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes.....oh boy...you made me dizzy
2007-01-16 09:07:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋