I cant find anything for the father, only the mother. Thanks so much for the help!
2007-01-16 00:51:30 · 12 answers · asked by jamz 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My ex-husband and I went through 3 misscarriages in 2 years. Each one was as painful for him as for me. He felt helpless and at fault for reasons that he could not control. He found some relief in therapy, and church functions but really its a hard and lonely process. There were grief support groups but he wasnt that type. I did my best to help him but its hard for wife to give alot of support since she is going through the same thing. His friends and family were quite supportive and they were helpful through alot. Turn to the people that know you best, and ask them for some advise and just talk. Talking is always the best way to get things off your mind.
2007-01-16 01:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by I luv Pets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miscarriage is a trying time on a couple. When a miscarriage happens the first thing everyone does is console the women. I guess we all take for granted that the man is feeling bad. The only thing that I can say to do is the same as you would for the mom. Just console him and let him know that he is loved. I have had 5 miscarriages and it is such a heartbreak every time. I do hope that they continue to try and have another baby and not let this experience detour them from trying again.
Good Luck to you guys and God Bless!
2007-01-16 01:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by ws_422 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, sorry about that.
I suggest hitting the library. See if you can find "Unspeakable Losses: Healing From Miscarriage, Abortion, And Other Pregnancy Loss"
(http://www.amazon.com/Unspeakable-Losses-Miscarriage-Abortion-Pregnancy/dp/068817390X/sr=8-1/qid=1168969871/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-4899696-0099337?ie=UTF8&s=books)
The concept of 'liquid life' (mentioned in the above book) is a good one.
Here:
http://www.amazon.com/Liquid-Life-William-R-LaFleur/dp/0691029652/sr=1-1/qid=1168969927/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/102-4899696-0099337?ie=UTF8&s=books
...just check the reviews for some discussion of the concept. To wit:
"The Japanese view of a newborn
is that it is a potential life. This view is even more emphatic
in the case of an unborn-a foetus. People become people in
this view by a gradual process of socialization.
Rather than being heartless, this way of looking at things has
a great deal to recommend it-especially in days when infant
mortality was high. Parents who lost a new-born or an unborn
child could pray for the return of that child in a subsequent
pregnancy. The ritual system, which provided no funeral for
one who died so young, affirmed the tentative nature of the
dead one's membership in the human community.
If it takes socialization to make a human and a family to make
socialization, then it is also up to the community and the
family to decide if that's going to happen at all. In this
view, life in infancy is a liquid that hardens into indiv-
iduality with time.
So infant death and miscarriage are sad, but not final. The
unborn child gets to come around again, maybe with better karma."
If you don't buy it, the 'Unspeakable Losses' has quite a number of ways of looking at it -- including fathers' reactions.
2007-01-16 04:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people forget that dad is grieving too. While mom is both emotionally and physically recovering, dad is shoved to the side and expected to be strong for both of them when sometimes, all dad wants to do is grieve the loss of his baby.
I don't think there is any one thing that can comfort a grieving parent. Only time can help heal a broken heart.
2007-01-16 01:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by barbiefreak518 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently went through this with my Nephew and his wife. It is a hard thing to go through for both parents, because people tend to take it lightly since miscarriage is so common these days. My nephew said he felt helpless because he didn't know what to do other than tell her that everything would be ok and they would try again. I did my best to listen to my nephew and just let him talk it out. It seemed to help him to let out his feelings. I wish them well.
2007-01-16 01:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard on the father he feels helpless that he couoldn't save his child. Hey, the child has to go make heaven fun for when it is his time. I know it's lame, but that would make me feel better. A child is harder to lose becasue they haven't lived yet. The hurt will never stop, but will be easier to cope as time passes. Sorry for your loss.
2007-01-16 00:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.mrdad.com/qa/expectant/miscarriage try this and sorry to hear, things will get better life does go on contact me if you just wanna chat,, tough thing to go thru
2007-01-16 00:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by deathape28 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you do not. i became there. i became so numb that i might want to imagine of factors that scared me or issues from my previous that had damage in basic terms so i might want to sense something... no longer a delightful position to be. no longer so mushy as Floyd claims...
2016-10-15 07:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mother goes through the emotional ups and downs, the father should support her.
2007-01-16 00:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
Sorry for your loss, hope you find something.
2007-01-16 00:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by willy g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋