A few weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me because I was going to fast for him and were friends now. I know I'm suppose to be happy, but I still have fellings for the guy.
Do I tell him and risk losing him forever or do I keep it to my self and cry every night knowing this was my doing in the first place?
Please help me I need to know the answer right now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-16 00:42:17 · 11 answers · asked by Tweety Bird 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to talk to him about your feelings.
Good Luck
2007-01-16 00:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just out of curiousity, are you a follower of the Hindu religion? From having experience with this culture and having friends from there, this is something that the women do for their men one day out of the year for the success of the men in all good works. If so, I would say to just do it anyway. Fasting won't hurt you, it actually helps to detoxify your system. Don't cry about it, because crying gets you nowhere. You stress yourself out, sometimes make yourself ill, all for what in the end is nothing. I know it hurts a lot right now. I can empathize, but I also have enough experience with these issues to know that there is no reason to put yourself through it if there is nothing you can do about it. Until you know for sure what is going on, don't stress about it. Do you know how to crochet? If you do, try doing that as it is a repetitive movement and doing movements like that help you to destress. Or do Yoga, jog around the block, go for a walk in the park to relax.
2007-01-16 00:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously have different goals, going in two different directions. What you want isn't what he wants, he feels pressured. That's a sure way to lose somebody, fast.
You can go to him and find out what he wants, and if that is alright with you, then let him know it.
But I doubt if you will be able to adjust to his speed or you to his. After a while, you will be back wanting what you want...which is okay, by the way.
It would be better to find someone with the same ideals that you do, so you can be of like minds.
Good Luck!
2007-01-16 00:50:34 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what you are alluding to when you say "going to fast for him"...do you mean, you guys got too physical too fast or you wanted to get married two weeks in? many times, we rush into a relationship because there are so many emotional factors going on in our hearts and minds that affect our outside and most obvious behaviours. we get physical because we believe that if we do that then maybe he will find us physically appealing and stay with us....and unfortunately, guys and girls view sex differently...where most girls view it as an emotional connection while as men do not always( i'm not saying they don't ever...)...and then we want to get married fast because we want to make sure that they aren't going to abandon us and leave us in the fragile, emotional state that we are in all by ourselves. the best thing to do is talk to him rationally...meaning, not desperate and not overwhelming....if you can't do that...give yourself some time to calm down and then try again. there is a huge risk in letting someone go, but sometimes in doing so...you get someone else,someone better in return.
good luck doll!
2007-01-16 00:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by lola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel. Honesty is the best policy!! Buy a card with a sad picture and the slogan "i miss you" inside... write exactly how you feel. Getting things out in the open is easier... i know this sounds so soppy-- but it worked for me!!
2007-01-16 00:50:42 · answer #5 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has someone else. And hasn't decided to end it. he wants to keep the other one. I'm a guy. I know the lines. Get away as fast as you've treated him. You deserve to be treated with respect.
2007-01-16 00:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Goggles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls generally go too fast for boys in many ways including maturity.
2007-01-16 00:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by bluesgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE PATIENT. If it is meant to be, he will come around. If it isn't meant to be you will stay friends and you will find someone else. DOn't jump the gun and tell him, you may ruin the friendship.
2007-01-16 00:47:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends with him, if he really likes you he won't wait too long. Definately don't push him or you will lose him.
2007-01-16 01:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to cool it at this point and back off!
2007-01-16 00:45:33 · answer #10 · answered by Joseph C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋