an ex girlfriend?

Question

I have an ex girlfriend who broke up with me a little over a month ago because she felt that certain things were missing in the relationship, and after a lot of thinking I realized that she was right and it is something that I definately want to improve, not just for her but for myself. I realize know that we both want the same things in a relationship, however she doesn't know that because she wants her space right now and doesn't want to talk to me. My question is, if you believe deep down in your heart that things are going to be a lot better and you believe that you were made for each other, and it is God's intentions for you to be together, then do you believe that it will happen? I'm asking because I know now deep down in my heart that we were made for each other. You know the saying you don't know what you have until it's gone, well that's exactly what happened to me. Please let me know what you think.

Answer 1

Give her the space she needs.
Just be there for her if you can.
Good Luck

Answer 2

I'm going through the same thing so dont feel bad. :) You have to free yourself from negative thinking. I tell myself that if this man has any love in his heart for me, he will come back to me....Simple as that. Because love is the most powerful force in the universe. When there is love between two people, nothing will stop those two from being together. It's an unseen magnetic attraction. She may need some space right now, so dont make it worse by getting emotionally ckingy and insecure. My ex is super insecure and he made me call off my wedding because he is constantly asking me over and over am I sleeping with someone else. Gosh, that is the most unattractive thing a person can do besides calling every hour on the hour.

Rememeber that old saying? "If you love someone set them free, if they come back their yours. If they dont come back, it was never meant to be." :)

Answer 3

Well, this is what I think, I think that your right about if it was meant to be it will be. If God placed you with someone and all these bad things are going on then don't worry about it because in the end it will be. But allot of times we can get caught up in what we want and want it so bad that we think it's God ordained but in reality it's not think about it would you want someone who would run every time somethings "missing" I don't think so she should have at least tried to make it work with you before making that decision if she really loved you of course and another thing from a womans perspective she's probably found another guy and just didn't want to let you know and didn't want to hurt your feelings find somone else you sound like a really nice guy there may not be anything wrong with you maybe it's her... think about it and someone else may love to be with a guy like you let another girl benefit the good change in you the other girl doesn't deserve it

Answer 4

If you both love and care enough to improve the relationship it can work. But you both have to be willing to work hard. A one sided relationship will not survive. Just be open and honest with each other, then no one will expect you to read their minds, and no one will get hurt in the end. Write down what you want to change, and have her do the same. Then work on it. compromise.. don't blame each other for something that one of you did or didn't do. Have respect for each other, and treat each other like you would want to be treated. Good luck

Answer 5

I think that if you two "were made for eachother" you would be together naturally and organically. there is no way you can press the issue with this girl. she needs space, so give it to her. If you go crawling and begging, she won't respect you. Ignore her and move on and then see if she comes back and is interested still. the odds are she won't come back and that's something you have to face. there's millions of girls out there, if you go find another one, then you'll feel better. If this relationship is God's intention, (which I highly doubt cause I'm sure he's busy) then it will work out

Answer 6

Why doesn't she want to talk to you??? That sounds a bit weird to me cos if she wated her space she'd check in once in a while to see how you're doing... Anyway, yes, I do believe that God's plan for 2 people to be together will eventually happen... it may not be early in your life-- it could be in your 70's when you meet the right person... but i do think there is that special soul mate for us out there. Good luck, and don't worry, my advice is to just leave her... give her her space... she'll realise what she's missing out on!!

Answer 7

That's a tough one. I dated a girl in high school 30 years ago. I just knew she was the one, but she broke up anyway and married someone else. We have recently found each other on the Internet and find we wanted the same things in life. I am married now and she is single, I still have feelings for her, but will not leave my wife for her. We will always be just good friends

Answer 8

I understand and im glad that u have realised your problems.If u r so sure that u know that u guys are made for each other, u should try to convince her in the sweetest possible ways.If she's still single..try to talk to her..if she doesn't want to talk to u..then write her a letter explaining how u feel for her and everything!just pour your heart in it.tell her that u guys should give it another try and if it doesn't work out..u'll leave her alone with all respects.But it's better if u talk to her face to face...and dont forget to hold her hand while u do the talking!good luck:)

Answer 9

I think anyone who believes he knows God's will is in serious need of a lesson in humility, and I smell a restraining order coming on. "I want some space" is politeness code for, "Leave me alone!" Give it up and go on with your life. Forget about this one.

Answer 10

I believe you should copy and paste your question in an email to her, and add that whenever she is ready that you will be there for her. It sounds like your seperation has taught you a lot, and it warrants a second chance.


Good luck my friend.

Answer 11

I know exactly how you feel. I had my girlfriend break up with me because of similar reasons and i didn't know if I should start dating other people or wait. i ended up wating for her to decide to come back and it was one of the best choices i ever made.