Do you believe that the deceased can still see and hear you?

Question

My brother passed away on New Years Eve 2006 very unexpected and we are still trying to comes to terms with losing him...my question is is it possible that he can stiil hear and see us or is this just a comfort thing for the people they leave behind? I talk to him in the hope he can hear me but I think it is something we will never know..serious answers only please this is a serious question.

Answer 1

sorry to hear about your lose, i do believe that our deceased loved ones are still with us in spirit. keep him close to your heart and just keep on talking to him i do believe that somewhere they can hear. i also think that some of our passed loved ones do watch over us. i know sometimes i feel a presence and i think that it is my grandmother who passed away when i was only 2 years old i am now 32. i only have a few pictures to remember her by, but i also talk to her too. and sometimes i feel she is with me watching over me. i hopes this helped you alittle. i know things are hard for you right now but as time goes by things will get better for you and your family. god bless

Answer 2

I'm very sorry for your loss. To lose someone so close and at that particular time of year must be especially devastating. Major life events like this can have a physical impact on your health so do try and get some professional bereavement advice if you can.

To answer your question - the answer is no. I don't believe that. But no-one really knows. Philosophically, anything is possible - if you need comfort - why not hold the thought that yes, he still can hear you.

If you're anything like me though you won't be able to believe something you don't have any evidence for. Why don't I believe? As a psychologist, I know that when certains bits of the brain are damaged our abilities change completely. One syndrome, called prosopagnosia, means that if you had it you wouldn't be able to recognise your own mother. Other people can't see movement, others can't tell you what a brush is for but will brush their hair with it if you put it in their hand. There are parts of the brain that would make you deaf if you lost them - if these dramatic things happen when only a tiny piece of the brain dies, it follows that once the brain dies, we lose everything we are. Some people will go on about souls - but why doesn't your soul recognise your mother if you have prosopagnosia? The soul argument starts to get implausible though I've no doubt religious minded folk will cling to the notion that somehow, the soul still exists when we die and can do all the things our physical brain could.

The second reason why I don't believe is that mediums have 100% of the time shown to be fakes in any properly controlled experiment. heir techniques are amazing but they are certainly not in contact with the dead. If any mediums out there would like to show otherwise I will be delighted for you as you can claim 1 million dollars from the James Randi foundation. No-one ever has.

It is the people left behind that are affected by death. I think of death as being like before I was born - was I upset then? No. Will I be upset when I die? No. Remember your brother for the fantastic person he was - and know that time is the best healer.
Best wishes

Answer 3

I think it depends on what you want to believe.. it's like religions, everyone is different. Personally, I think when you have died everything is gone. I'm sorry it may not be what you want to hear but it doesn't mean it's true.. just what I feel. Being atheist, I don't really believe in the whole heaven, spirits and still hearing stuff. I think it is in a way a comfort for people as it makes them feel like they aren't totally gone. I mean it is hard to imagine how difficult is it to come to terms with the fact that someone you loved and were close to is gone and you and they will never see and hear each other again. Sorry if I have offended anyone who believes in those it is just what I think.. just sharing my view as the question has been asked. Sad to hear about your loss by the way. I'm sure he would not want you to spend all your time being really sad so stay strong!

Answer 4

I hope not after some of the things I've been doing of late.

if you get comfort from it that's OK for some people is faith others its something else. Have a talk to CRUSE they are a bereavement support service, they seem to have a good reputation.

When my Mum died someone said that the person never really dies until the last person that remembers them dies, I thought that was nice. I have no faith I am an atheist, so religion has no answers for me.

Answer 5

People believe in all sorts of things, and its a personal choice that comforts us.
No one can actually tell you what happens after we pass away, but I talk to my grandparents all the time, and I hope they hear me.
Sorry to hear about your brother x

Answer 6

Yes. I'm certain.
Your *thoughts* can draw their attention.
My personal experiences with deceased relatives was in dreams. Usually upon half-waking up in the morning. I know it's not like other kind of dreams.

Here's a good prayer for the deceased:
"Eternal rest, give unto them, oh Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon them. May they rest in peace, Amen."
or,
"Om namo Narayanaya" repeat 108 times (one japa)
or,
"Om Mani Padme Hung" repeat 108 times.

Answer 7

I feel sorry for your loss. I think it's up to the individual. If it' makes you happy to talk to your brother then wants the harm? As you said nobody knows but carry on. My grandmother died 7 years ago but I still talk to her. Perhaps she can't hear me, perhaps she can but if anything it helps me to remember her. Things will get better in time. I wish you well

Answer 8

sorry for your loss, 2006 was a sucky year for my family too, my dad died of lung cancer.
Ok, the way it was told to me is, that when you die, your memory is erased. Because, there is only joy in heaven, there are no sadnesses, no illnesses, it is a glorious place.And if they were able to see and hear us, they would be sad to know that we are sad, and in heaven that just doesn't fly. As you know God hears you, so you could talk to him and sometimes people hear him and he can and WILL help you. Good luck and God Bless You.

Answer 9

So sorry for your loss. I do believe that their spirit visits and watches over you, but maybe it is a bit soon yet. Maybe you should find a local spritualist church in your area, they do bring great comfort. Best of luck.xx

Answer 10

I believe that its true, departed souls come visit you, can see and hear you.Its comforting for them also that he/she is being remembered.Any good habit that a departed souls had we should continue doing that(like helping people especially the needy ones,orphans.widowed and invalids) Doing so ALLAH's (GOD) blessings not come to you but to the departed souls also.