My wife wants to leave me after 6 years of marriage, though I am still in love with her. This is making life miserable for me. I am not able to concentrate on work too. Unfortunately I donot have a lot of friends in the city where I live, hence cant share my sorrow with anyone.
2007-01-16 00:08:19 · 15 answers · asked by trantor_man 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My father has been through 3 divorces and it know it's tough.
Have you tried going to counciling? What are her primary complaints about your marriage? Is there anything you can do to fix those things?
You didn't mention whether or not you had children. If you don't then there is something to be thankful for.
Sorry I can't be of more help.
2007-01-16 00:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you and your wife tried a marriage counselor or is it beyond that? Does she know you still love her? I assume that based on your wording, that the break up is final. Remember that the days following a break up will always be the most painful. Exercise is a good way to burn off stress, seek out social groups that share your same situation. I am certain that you will meet potential friends there that you can converse with. Group therapy programs can be very helpful. If you are a person of faith, turn to a minister for advice. You should also consider taking a week off from work and take a few days' vacation alone to think things out. I'm sure your employer would understand. That way your work performance won't suffer. Finally, time is a healer, too. Just be patient with your feelings, and don't let negativity bring you to a lower level then where you are now at. And don't get personal in a negative way with your wife.
2007-01-16 00:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by gone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try suggesting a counselor or clergy/pastor to talk about your relationship. Let your wife know that you are still in love with her and look at ways you could possibly improve your marriage.
Take a step back, look and listen to how you talk to her and respond to her. Maybe if you can open up the communication with your wife and seek out solutions to why she wants a divorce in the first place you maybe able to change things.
But if your marriage is absolutly over, then you need to concentrate on yourself right now and what direction youd like to go in your life at this time.
Call and talk to someone you feel comfortable with. Now is a good time to start meeting new friends and doing activities that will help you get through this rough time. good luck.
2007-01-16 00:19:05 · answer #3 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still inlove with your wife you must make every effort to have her agree for marriage counseling. You both need to talk about what is it that is making her want to end the marriage. Letting her know how you feel is one thing but you also must let her know that if she really does want to leave then you will honor her wishes and move on with your life. A broken heart is not fun I know, we have all suffered through them at one point in our lives. But at least you can say you really tried to repair the marriage. So give it your best shot and good luck to you!
2007-01-16 02:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to learn to be happy, even in an adverse situation. Accept the inevitable and move forward in life. May be, just maybe, a new love is waiting for you in the corner. Anything can happen. There is a little rain in everyone's life, but the sun will shine, sooner or later.
2007-01-16 00:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the only answer my friend . It hurts more than anything you've felt before . Give your self time to heal. No doubt you will go through certain stages. first is the pain of loss .second anger at her possibly yourself .Third self doubt . Fourth acceptance . Fifth forgiveness . Forgiveness can be the hardest step because of the pain that was inflicted. It is the most important step . For only when you forgive can you move on . Remember to love yourself . Good luck .
2007-01-16 01:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by Peace of Mind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Q:How can I be happy in an adverse situation?
Ans:Suggested solutions are:
1) Talk to her and find out her inner desires and the defects she is finding with you. Try to iron out the differences and reconcile with her.
2) Talk to a marriage counsellor and take his advice.
3) Ask her to apply for a divorce , grant it and start a new life acceptable to your mind.
2007-01-16 00:18:32 · answer #7 · answered by NQS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously there are problems that you were unaware of... And your wife isn't willing to help "fix" them...
So, time to move on.... Look at this as a new start... Time to change your lifestyle... Get out there meeting people... Go to the gym, take up other kinds of classes... And see what happens...
2007-01-16 00:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry your heart is breaking. Join the gym close to your house. Find a nice Church. Take an evening college enrichment class. There are many things for you to do to occupy your time and make new friends.
2007-01-16 00:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello frnd,,
In my openion you should first have faith in GOD & try to be happy..you could help others which make you feel happy and give mently setisfaction..if you like reading you could read self help books..you should also try meditation.. after waking up pray to GOD for few mints then excercise a bit or yoga.. it will also help you a lot..
hope for the best..
2007-01-16 20:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by nit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋