Is it weird to buy a friend a diamond?

Question

My best girl-friend's 21st is coming up. We don't see alot of eachother but we've been friends for yrs. I'm flying up for her party and wanted to buy her a loose diamond. We've never dated but i've always liked her, but first and foremost we're good friends that get along great. I want to get her a diamond cus she's one of my best friends and diamonds are a girls best friend...get it. i figured she could set it in something one day or sell it while she's backpacking europe or something! but then i thought maybe its a bit strange to buy a girl you're not involved with a diamond...specially since any fool could see that i've always fancied her...

Answer 1

First I've got to say that regarding the etiquette aspect of giving diamonds, my take is based on my own cultural background (Austria) and that may well be different and hence not really useful to you. But I'll mention it anyway: I think only a diamond RING would be a "problem".

I think the idea of giving her a loose diamond which symbolizes you as her best friend is awesome. What a meaningful gift! Like saying "Our friendship is so precious to me" and "I will always be your friend" (since "diamonds are forever"). Because the meaning you add to it is what truly makes the gift precious, I would say it's important you tell her what you mean by it (or write it in the card)... I mean like you wrote it here ("cus she's one of my best friends and diamonds are a girls best friend...get it.")

I don't think a lady receiving a meaningful gift like that would ever sell it... so if you wanted to help her finance her trip to Europe, you'd probably want to find a different way of doing that instead. But then as far as I understand your question, the idea about selling it is just giving her the freedom to use it any way she chooses, which I think is good. I just doubt she will choose to sell it if you say it symbolizes your friendship.

I do understand the sensitive issue of "diamonds being forever" and therefore being generally taken to mean love/engagement. My answer to that is
1) Friendship can also be forever. Diamonds symbolize "forever" but forever does not need to equate with love.
2) In your case -and this really makes this question tough- there is some truth in the possible misinterpretation (love). To this I have several thoughts...
- It's the perfect gift because it seems to really reflect all the aspects of your friendship, even the feelings that go beyond friendship. I suppose that your friend is aware of these feelings anyway, and she is still your friend. So I suppose that she will understand all the aspects of the gift and still be your friend (since that is what she seems to want to be).
- The gift will only be a "problem" if being friends despite your feelings that go beyond friendship is already causing a problem or awkwardness between you. If that problem is already there, even if it has been pushed aside, the gift may cause it to surface or to be discussed more openly. That could either strengthen or endanger your friendship. But I think it will only endanger your friendship if she feels in some way pressured to be more than a friend to you (yet not prepared to be more). I have friendships with a few men who would like me to be more than a friend, and I can't really pretend to have this figured out for myself. It seems to work as long as both sides can be open about it and as long as the person wanting more can take the "rejection" and does not keep trying to make me be more than a friend.
- So personally I would go ahead and give her that wonderful, thoughtful, meaningful gift, and make it clear that it symbolises -friendship-. How precious it is to you, how much you would value to be her friend forever. I think she will sense the unspoken symbolism there, too. If you leave it up to her whether or not to act on the latter, then isn't she bound to feel immensely treasured as well as respected for her feelings (and their limits)?

Answer 2

If its a small diamond (like .25 carets), and also you do not placed on it on your left ring finger, no human being will imagine its an engagement ring. yet to not in any respect be married ever? Are you not in any respect going to purchase a house? Mingling your funds without the protections of marriage is a very undesirable idea. somewhat, what's the point of refusing to marry? in order that he has the liberty so as that he can walk far flung from you some day without legal entanglements? Why do you want to verify to a guy who feels that way? He needs you to have a hoop so different adult males do not imagine you're accessible. yet he's not wearing a hoop, is he? He needs you to be unique to him, yet he will not in any respect take the step of promising to be unique to you. it really is what refusing to marry skill.

Answer 3

They have loose diamonds on ebay starting at a $1. Here's a direct link

Answer 4

Traditionally, unless you two are lovers, it isn't done. I remember getting jewelry from men on my 21st birthday and the gems were everything BUT diamonds. Diamonds are stones for lovers- consider another gem (I got emeralds).

Answer 5

Diamonds are forever, diamonds are girl's best friend... so diamonds are girls best friend forever!
Get her a pair of classic earring perfect..

Answer 6

I think it's a very good idea!Forget labelling!
As long as that's what make you a cheerful giver(you give it from you heart)it doesn't matter if it's usually a gift for a special someone like a girfriend only!

Answer 7

being a girl i'd love a diamond but find it strange to come from a male friend. i'd think you'd want more from me and i probably would not ecept it...

Answer 8

I want to be your best friend........there's nothing wrong in buying her a diamond.

Answer 9

dats not at all weird..........infact it wud be the sweetest gift she cud ever hav..........sumthin she will always remember........infact she might even fall in for u.......coz diamond are rally a girl's best frnd and quickest way to make her feel SPECIAL........

Answer 10

No it isn't at all--it's a very nice gesture for a special friend.