How do I help my mom cope with the hard truth of my teen sister being pregnant. She is heartbroken. She doesnt want to eat, sleep. Nothing. We need to move on. I want her to feel better. How can I help her.
2007-01-14 23:25:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
When i told my mum i was pregnant she took it pretty hard. Although i found she didnt take it as hard as when i was raped and the doctors thought i was.
You cant force your mum into councilling as if she doesnt want to go, this will make her distance from you and she needs all the support she can get.
Remember your sister is going through alot aswel dont forget, although she has made this mistake, she needs support aswel. Being pregnant is a big challenge for a young person.
And you yourself cant take on all the problems, dont forget to take time out occasionally to relax so you dont become overlly stressed because then you cant give them the support they need anyway.
I would suggest taking your mum out somewhere relaxing like the beach or out to lunch or shopping and talk to her. Tell her what your sister is going through and that she will need her help and she has to be strong. Also tell your mum that you are there and always will be there for her when she needs you. Try and help her out a little more like cooking cleaning and giving her more time to relax but make sure when she is relaxing that she isnt focused on your sister.
People will say just give her space, dont she will focus on the problem and fall into a bigger hole. Just be there for her as much as you can and remember your own health.
Whats done is done and now all thats left is climbing the hill to get to the top.
It will get worse before it gets better but once it is better you will have a closer family relationshiup.
Good luck and stay strong you owe it to yourself. Your mum will make it through with your help.
Good luck sweetie and congrats on becomeing a soon 2 be aunty life is a precious gift so work with it xoxoxoxoxo
2007-01-15 00:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by fi_beans90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help her by getting support through a group or helping her to except that our children grow up and make thier own choices this is not a relflection on us. we all do our best at parenting there are no classes in high school on this so we just do the best we can with what we have. I too had to come to this point as i have a son in prison and had a hard time of it. your sister can get through this as well as your family just stay tough together and go find a support group for the whole family if you are Christains have her go to your church Pastor or Priest they will help also, Good luck I will pray for all of you.
2007-01-15 07:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by Mary B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can remind your Mom that a teen pregnancy does not mean the end of the girls life. She's pregnant not dying. The baby will not be the end of her life rather the beginning of her grown up life. She made a big mistake but life goes on and so will she and so will Mom. Remind Mom of the sweet smell of babies and that this will be a new grandchild to love.
2007-01-15 07:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is the adult and not you. She feels like this because she thinks she is a failure for not preventing this situation by good communication. How does your father feel about it? Is your sister keeping the baby? Time is critical and a decision has to be made. There are several options for keeping baby or not.
2007-01-15 07:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest seeking help from a proffesional counselor because it will only get worse, your sister is also going to need a lot of professional help, especially if she keeps the baby!!!
2007-01-15 08:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Angela C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is as bad as you are portraying, she may need a doctor's help in handling the situation.
2007-01-15 08:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince her that she is not her usual self and plead with her to see a psychologist/psychiatrist/therapist.
2007-01-15 08:30:36 · answer #7 · answered by the bag lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u your family needs help
2007-01-15 09:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by gorgeousgirl195632145 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she's religious . have her some counseler and tell her it is not the end of the world . oh my god does she know we are in the 21st century ??
2007-01-15 08:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to tell your mom that your sis has made a mistake and you have to support her...it is proper of your mom.. but you have to consel her
2007-01-15 07:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋