my child has had had repeated dreams telling him he is going to die.he is 9yrs.psychological feedback please?

Answer 1

I am no expert but From experience I would say that this is a normal part of growing up. At the age of 8 - 9 a childs mental development increases largely, in preperation of the incomming pubic phase. They become more aware of death and danger. They are exposed to much more at these ages, especially in the world we live in today. All this coverage of the war and hanging etc will not help. For most children they will asklots of questions about these subjects as their development makes them curious about more 'adult subjects'.
You should be careful what he is watching on TV for now as he may just be not ready for so much grown up stuff. Sit him down and talk to him about whatever subjects he feels he wants to know more about, death, love, life etc. My daughter is only 6 but she asks me about everything, so I try to keep the answers suitable to her age and tell her what I feel a 6yr old should know and no more.

If it helps you, get a Dream Dictionary, as this will help you to translate the dreams.

Death usually means a new beginning.
to translate; for a child to be born the pregnancy stage must die, or for a new chapter in your life to begin the old chapter must end etc.

If your son tells you anything that the dream book cannot help you with or that you feel alarmed about then you should see your doctor asap.

With all these spooky movies around, where kids are haunted or have a special 'gift' etc etc it is easy for our own imaginations to run away, as we care so much about our children and want to protect them. Try not to read too much into these dreams as they will soon pass. at 7 I use to have recurrent dreams about being chased by a man while I was wearing a strange old blanket over my head and body. He was trying to kill me. or kidnap me or something. I remeber that they started after I overheard my dad talking to someone about a local couple who's daughter was missing for over 20 years, she was my age when she vanished. This is why I say that you should be careful or speak to him about what could have started these dreams.

Answer 2

I was at a very similar age when I developed a death fear (though not through dreams) for a period of time after having read a children's book about the human body and how it works. It could be something silly like this that could bring on an incident like that in children. I was terrified of going to sleep because I thought I would die. I took the book back to the library after a while and these episodes stopped shortly. I'm sure it's nothing serious and probably a non-related thing created this problem. If in doubt, just visit a child psychologist to get expert opinion.

Answer 3

Try not to worry. I wouldneed to know more information about your child, but my hunch is that this is a stage of develipment he is going through.

Or it could be that he is anxious about something that is going on in the family, or at school. In this case, the best thing to do is let him talk. I say, "let him talk" rather than "talk to him" because many well meaning parents talk to their child rather than encouraging the child to talk to them. I know it can be difficult, but try to give him space to talk things through with you, or with some other trusted adult.

Are the dreams the only thing you're worried about? A dream is a message from the unconscious and can be a positive thing. What is he studying at school? That's about the age some schools start to include death in learning in some way. Or maybe someone in the family has died recently? Or he has seen something on TV.

He might be anxious about someone else dying - possibly a parent. He's at an age when he realises parents are not immortal and that can be scarey.

If you are still worried in a week or so, ask the advice of your doctor. If this continues for a while and is very upsetting for him, perhaps he needs to talk to a counsellor (sometimes its possible to arrange this through your GP or the school)

And YOU need support too, because this is difficult for you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Repeated dreams are signs that your son has developed a "disturbing fear."
You need to find out, a fear of "WHAT?" and then minimize it as not a problem.(PS.the fear does not have to be of "Death.")

How is he doing in school? Did some changed happen in school?
How does he socialize with his friends and other members of the family? Did some changed happen to his friends or the family?

We are all living with "fears", some more disturbing to us than others. Its healthy for us when we do not let them disrupt our lives or disturb our sleep.
follow these steps:
1) Talk about "fears" and any of your fears that you can share with him.Let him know that everybody have fears and its normal to be afraid.Then ask him open ended questions about his fear.
(That usually work, but if it does not, see the next step.)
2) Observe how he interact with those at home and his friends.
3) Seek the help of a few "grownups" that he is comfortable socializing with especially his teacher and do a followup to see if they found out what is his "fear."

If all the above fail to come up with a disturbing fear, then take him for counseling. (PS: It will not hurt to give his bedroom a make over, to monitor his mealtime before climbing into bed, to say a prayer etc :)
Hope this help, good luck.

Answer 5

He feels threatened in some way - something in his daily life is too much for him to handle right now, too big, too dangerous. It could be being bullied at school, but it could also be that he has to cross a really busy road and that crossing doesn't always go as planned eg drivers jumping the lights or kids playing 'chicken' and expecting him to do the same. Could be he has to go on a footbridge and the height and possibility of falling into the road scares him.

Look at what his daily routine involves,once you start tickling the problem it will unfurl for you.

Answer 6

Death is not easy to comprehend for a lot of people. Has someone close to you died recently, a Grandparent for example because something will have triggered these fears within him. You will probably need to get professional help but in the meantime perhaps you should start explaining that everyone has to die one day and that when it is our time to go, those who loved us and went before us will be there waiting to meet us, we will not be alone. It's not coming from a strong religious perspective, it's just to allay a child's fears, bless him. Good Luck

Answer 7

get him expressing a lot. ask him lots of questions, followed by a lot of 'uh huh' and 'go on' keep him talking. have him draw pictures. somewhere deep down he knows what his problem is and its not going to be that big a problem. he'll just be thinking too much. i would suggest some meditation to clear his mind and help him find peace but he may be too young. there are a couple of tough things to deal with there, one is the fact that he will in fact die at some point, we all will. also he probably is not going to die any time soon. the only way to deal with that is to not think about. what good is that thinking going to do.

Answer 8

has someone in your family recently passed? has he watched a film? has he learnt about death recently? is he being bullyed? you should sit down and have a chat with him and find out what is behind this as its not goood for a 9 year old to be having these sort of dreams, there is a reason and only your son can tell what the reason is. good luck i hope he will be ok xx

Answer 9

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Answer 10

i am pretty sure this is the age that most children become aware of death and what it means and the fear of not existing. you need to just comfort him but be honest (just on his level) though and if there is some belief in your life that you wish to share now might be the time. everyone goes through this and children now days see, hear and read about so much death on t.v. and in the news that they are bound to become fearful and scared. i know there are several children's books that deal with this subject. why not go to amazon and do a search and then go to the local library and see if they have them it might do much to comfort you and him. personally i don't see death as the end and that in and of itself brings a certain amount of comfort. just let him know you are there for him and just let him talk and you listen.