Girlfriend of a couple of months told me that she had a few thresome's when she was 15 with a couple of guys. She was going through a rough patch with parents divorce and used drink, drugs and sex to get over it. It was along time ago(10 yrs), but i still feel weird about it. We have great sex but I have never tried a threesome. She also told me that she contracted herpes from a long term boyfriend a couple of years ago which has flared up due to the flu.
2007-01-14 23:17:29 · 6 answers · asked by Marky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't know, why do you feel weird about her past?
Is it because she has had a threesome and you haven't and therefore you feel "cheated-out" of something?
Are you bothered by the fact that she was a "wild-child" and are you afraid that you are not enough for her now?
Are you bothered by what others might think? Or what you think? Do you think because she did this she is a "sl*t"? Or that others might?
Now she says she has herpes.
The former really shouldn't be any concern because 1) it's in her past, and 2) you're in her present and hopefully future. She may someday want to have a threesome with you too as your relationship progresses and you become more committed.
The latter, the herpes, this is something that should have been disclosed to you up front, but your past that now, so you have to deal with it. First, get tested yourself. Second, forgive her. The fact is that 50% of people have some form of herpes, so by that figure 1 of every 2 girls you meet will. It can be worked around, and controlled with medication and proper diet.
So first you need to define what about her past is bothering you, then discuss that openly and without judgment with her. Good, open, and honest communication is the key to any relationship.
2007-01-15 07:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, let it go. She is with you now, and she has been honest with you. These experiences are in her past, and she has moved on. Your feeling probably have more to do with your fear of seeming inadequate in comparison to her former partners than with her. If she were disloyal, she would have lied about all of this. Do not use it against her, and do not end the relationship based on this alone. She deserves better. It took guts to tell you all of this. You should respect that. She did nothing wrong to you, and I believe she probably feels a great deal of sadness and regret about these experiences now.
2007-01-14 23:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by roknrolr63 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think the herpes could have been mentioned a bit earlier in your relationship and the threesome could have remained an unknown quantity.
2007-01-15 08:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by uncle36fester 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got your hands full there mate. It's one thing having lots of sex and threesomes, but not being careful about it is something else.
Domestic issues are not what makes people have threesomes, loving c0ck too much it was did that.
Good luck, you are gonna need it.
2007-01-14 23:22:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
whats the problem she was only a child then and has considerably grown up since then and matured she feels safe in your relationship to tell you these things if there are no problems why cause a fuss it is in the past you could tell her that you don't wont to listen to any more
only you can decide if you wont to continue this relationship
2007-01-14 23:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she has changed why judge her cause of her past? We have all made mistakes - and some of us learn from them - so i would say you shouldn't take it to seriously - just be careful
2007-01-14 23:23:00 · answer #6 · answered by Immortal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋