My sisters husband keeps on pestering me for an affair.I have told him no .I dont want my sister to know coz shes not strong and might get depressed and might blame me when iam not after her husband.He often comes to see me with the permission of the wife who does not know why.I have so much respect for both of them.Threats to tell wife dont seem to mean anything to him.I live alone and think its not safe for me.Please help.
2007-01-14 23:04:16 · 22 answers · asked by jus-tus 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any sad new sends my sister into a hospital for mental patients.Telling her is out unless i want her to go into hospital.I dont want to do that to her.
2007-01-17 17:43:11 · update #1
Police complaint works or if you really have guts beat him along with your friends.
If your sister come to know this he will punish her mentally or will ask her to herself arrange this.
2007-01-21 01:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get an order of protection, then tell your sister. After her stay at the mental hospital, she will probably come out at stronger person. She dosen't deserve a man like that and you have a right to be protected. He probably dosen't feel threatened by your claim to tell his wife, because he dosen't believe that you ever will. Stop walking on eggshells with your sister. She'll never learn to be strong if everyone is always trying to shelter her from the truth.
2007-01-21 22:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Flora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let your sister know what is happening, hey take her to the ER and then give her the news. Would you prefer she heard something like this from a total stranger or she catches a STD from him, because if he is doing this with or to you, you can believe that you are not the first and you will not be the last. Oh and don't open your door to this creep and get a nice bat for his next appearance and when he appears at your door, call the police and tell them he is harassing you. Don't give this jerk any respect, he doesn't deserve any. God Bless.
2007-01-21 05:25:28 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
best thing would be to try and get him on a recorder saying things to you. Get proof of what he is trying to do. Tell your sister. If she is strong or not, that is not the question. If she decides to do something about it then you know she is stronger than you think. If she goes against you then you know she is ignorant and will always take his side and you will have to learn to separate yourself from them and never let him near you without her or someone else. Since he can change it around and point the finger at you since he knows she will side with him.
Luck!!
2007-01-20 15:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Nunya M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he comes to the door, don't answer it. It doesn't matter if he knows you are there or not. It is your decision and your right to not let him in. I would tell him in no uncertain terms and very strongly that I do not want him coming to my house without my sister. Be forceful when you say NO. I think you should tell him that you are appalled and disappointed in his actions. I don't know how you can say that you respect him when he is trying to mess with you while he is married to your sister. Doesn't sound like a very respectful guy to me. You can stop this and you should....right away!
2007-01-15 07:14:30 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not want to upset your sister but she definitely has a right to know that she is married to a creep. Just sit her down calmly and explain exactly what's been happening. If he still insists on harassing you call the police and have him charged with stalking. Best of luck to you.
2007-01-15 07:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should tell his wife, because if you dont it will only get worse, i no it happened to me except it was my bestfriends husband, and you said you have respect for both, well that is another reason you should tell her cause he could go out somenight and fidn a different girl and you dont want to see her get hurt over him, if she trusts him and thinks he isnt tryin to do stuff behind her back well you should let her knwo what he is doin..or else something really bad is goin to end up happening, and then if it goes aht far you will end up feeling bad for not telling her when she finds out..im nto sure if any of that helped you..im sorry if it didnt..i just say let her know about what is heppening!!
2007-01-15 07:11:51 · answer #7 · answered by lil cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is to tell her, I think that you should. There is really no other way to deal with it. The marrige is obviously unstable if he is seeking an affair. You can not be put into danger just because you are affraid that someone's feelings will get hurt.
2007-01-20 20:02:33 · answer #8 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing really says leave me alone like a knee in the n*ts!!! He is sexually harrassing you, and taking advantage of your sisters situation to push you into it. I think your sister might be better off knowing, somewhere, somehow, sometime she will find out.... You may not be the only one he is doing this too. Be honest with her, I think that way its fairer to you and to her. Hopefully he will get his just desserts!!!
2007-01-19 07:46:05 · answer #9 · answered by Eve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey don't b scared just calm down n relax.first of all in my opinion i thin its a wrong decission for u not to tell ur sister.coz she is the only 1 who cud do sumthin abt it.she'd surely take sum action.n if u feel scared then y don't u shift in ur sis's house for a couple of weeks. so everything wud b in front of ur sis n her husband wud'nt take any action.then as he won't be able 2 say n e thing to u all his feelings wud go.i m sure for that
2007-01-15 07:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll call the police if he so much as sets foot in your place without and invitation from you and also avoid times or functions that will place you alon e with him and get a dog or an alaram so he can't enter your place
2007-01-15 07:08:52 · answer #11 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋