i have a friend who i think he's my best friend and i think i have some sexual feelings for him but im not gay neither bi but still i have some feelings perphaps some love..., and i dont have the guts to tell him that, and i need to get it out of my system, if i tell him abt it, i think he'll shut me off forever. should i confess to him about it or keep quiet? help!
2007-01-14 22:59:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Keep quiet. If you're sure you're neither gay nor bi you wouldn't act on them with him. Perhaps your friendship is just so close that he is like a soulmate. You may be confusing your strong feelings of friendship (and perhaps admiration at his attractiveness) with sexual urges.
Of course, you may be in denial about being Gay or Bi, in which case unless you know that he is Gay or Bi - to tell him would impact upon your friendship (as you've said).
So, Don't tell him.
2007-01-14 23:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you're in denial.. "i'm not gay"..admit it you're at least bi.. you said it yourself "i have some feelings perhaps some love..." maybe you haven't felt this way towards a guy before but you do now so i think you're bi. it's ok. if he really is your best friend, he should be ok with it (if he's not going to understand). there is a saying "a best friend is someone that knows your good side and your bad and loves them both". may be he's not going to feel that comfortanle in the beginning but i'm sure he won't run out on you.
2007-01-15 08:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by pokerface 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are feeling this, there is NO WAY you are straight!!! You are either gay or bi. Just play it by ear and see if the right time comes up to hint at it or just plain tell him.
2007-01-15 10:05:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have some feeling, you are possible bi. Tell him that you don't know what the feelings you have are. Until you get it out of your system, you will not feel good about it.
2007-01-15 10:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very few males are absolutely one or the other. The idea that they must be is an illusion, and it leads to a lot of hatred.
I would say, enjoy the feelings, and don't say anything if you are concerned.
Loving him may be enough. And friends DO love one another. Real friends do anyway.
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-01-15 09:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I fell in love with my best friend as well. We were in the military. I never told him my feelings ....he figured it out. We're still best friends. He's Str8 & married. I'm gay. Depending on how deep your friendship is...he may already realize your "love". You may want to keep silent about the "sexual feelings" if any.
2007-01-15 07:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Dude...you're either gay or bi. I realized I had feelings for my best guy friend while I was dating girls. We hooked up and it was just a fling, but now I'm only with guys.
You gotta tell him just to give yourself some peace. If he dosen't want to be your friend anymore, then I guess he wasn't much of one to begin with.
2007-01-15 09:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by cardinalboy97 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I have feelings for my best friend too! I have been friends wiith him since we have been little kids. I told him i loved him for the first time during new years, last year. He told me he felt the same way too! there is no difference between us men telling how we feel to our best friends and the way women do it! i say you should tell him that you love him..........i think you will be surprised that he feels that close to you, if he cannot express his emotions like a man, then he isnt worth it.
2007-01-15 07:08:14 · answer #8 · answered by trysssa999 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
well if you have sexual feelings for him..you are either gay or bi. But if he is not going to be receptive then hang onto your friendship and say nothing.
2007-01-15 07:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hi
if u r not gay or bi then how is it you say the feeling towards him is sexual ?
you should figure out yourself and what exactly it is you feel b4 spilling the beans.
2007-01-15 07:09:19 · answer #10 · answered by Ati 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋