i met this guy and hes realy great but i only like him as a friend but he acts like he likes me alot more than a friend. he always says he loves me and he sounds like he means it but i already have a boyfriend and he means more than anything to me but i feel like he (my boyfriend)may feel uncomfortable knowin that this guy is sayen these things to me and he knows that hes sayen them. i want to be his friend but my boyfriend is more important to me!! i just dont want to be rude to this other guy....but i feel so uncomfortable with this guy sayen these things to me when i have a boyfriend and i love my boyfriend!!!
2007-01-14 22:47:27 · 13 answers · asked by kelse v 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
to the person who believes i havnt explaind to my friend about my bf and anybody else who agrees wit her your wrong ive talkd to him bout it hes read things i say about my boyfriend PLUS hes talkd to my boyfriend before. and my boyfriend and i have both clearly stated and showed our relationship and feelings for one another.
2007-01-14 23:43:16 · update #1
Time to take a step back from your friendship and work on your relationship. It sounds like your friend cannot cope with having a platonic friendship, so you're going to have to reduce your time spent together until his feelings for you subside. It's unfair for him to make grand claims of love when he knows you are unavailable, so tell him (gently) than you would like it to stop. Be firm but kind, and then tell your boyfriend this so that he continues to trust and appreciate you.
You're doing the right thing by your relationship, which as you said, is the most important thing!
Hopefully in the future your friend will calm down a little and you can continue a basic relationship, but for now, that seems unlikely.
Good luck!
2007-01-14 22:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell the other guy that saying those things to you makes you uncomfortable. If he really does love you, he will not want to hurt you. Otherwise, it's likely that he just wants to sleep with you and then leave you. If you are in Jr. High or High School, I wouldn't doubt that that is his only motive. If you really love your boyfriend, stay faithful -- nothing but sadness comes from cheating (believe me, I've been there)! ^___^
2007-01-14 22:54:00 · answer #2 · answered by Writer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should brake with the friend, its not fair to either of you. If you keep being the friends friend, he will (if he is in love with you) keep his hopes that you will start loving him, your bf will probably in the long run develop jealousy on the other guy. This may end up that you two breaks up.
So if you say that your bf is the more important person, you should brake with the friend, tell him the reason.
2007-01-14 22:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you value his friendship but you dont feel the same as he does when it comes to love. iIs a bit hard cause he will either respect you or feel rejected, an if he feels hurt about it dont blame yourself cause you are only doing what is best for you. If he doesnt want to stay friends then thats his choice an his loss. Either way its him or your boyfriend in the end and you need to think about what you want.
2007-01-14 22:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by emesumau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront with this guy tell him that it makes you uncomfortable when he says those things and that you want to be his friend but if he continues to say those things then you will not be able to spend time with him because as a friend he should respect your comfort just as much as you respect his. You don't want to lead him on and it needs to stop now. do not mention that your boyfriend dislikes this as you have just brought in a third party to a conversation that this other guy can justify still saying things to you as he will believe it is becuase of your boyfriend you say this and not becasue YOU don't want him to say things .
2007-01-14 22:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Natashya K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be friends with this guy if he is like that!!! It will just cause problems between you and your boyfriend later on. I'm sure your bf would prefer if you wouldn't be friends with him. You could tell the guy that you're very serious about your bf and that you want him to leave you alone. n
2007-01-14 22:52:15 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best solution in this case is conversation. First fo all you should talk to your friend and explain how you feel about him. If he knows how you see your relationship possibly he will stop interfering to your relationship with your boyfriend. On the other hand you should explain to your boyfriend how you feel about him and about your friend so he will not misunderstand your relationship with your friend. Hope I helped you! ;)
2007-01-14 22:55:38 · answer #7 · answered by Margarita F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to tell this guy you like him as a mate and nothing else.explain to him that some of the comments he is making are making you uncomfortable.otherwise ask your boyfriend to have a chat with him
2007-01-14 22:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by magiclady2007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, well, sounds like a love triangle story, i think you need to be honest with your friend and tell him that you already have a boyfriend who you love very much, and tell him that we'll be friends only not more than that...if that doesnt work, tell your boyfriend to tell him to back off.....thts the only soluation babe, good luck.
2007-01-14 22:52:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a bf and you love him. and you dont like this other guy saying that he loves you. fair enough but why is it that you havent told this guy that you cant love him? i think he has no idea that u r going around with some one else or else no one is so stupid.
2007-01-14 23:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋