i had a last minute moment of madness before i got married,had been told i could not have kids then found out 1 week after i got married i was pregnant,my husband thinks the babys his i cant tell him cause i dont want to upset him while he is going away all the time hes in afganistan at the moment.im so distraught i cant enjoy this miracle child.
2007-01-14 22:39:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
whens the best time to tell him
2007-01-14 22:51:43 · update #1
Well that is certainly a real bad case of madness. Honestly what were you thinking ? Did you not love your then husband to be enough to be totally faithful to him ? I really wish you a lot of luck with this one and hope that your husband is extremely forgiving. . You must tell your husband the truth, it will probably come out eventually anyway and the longer you leave it the harder the lie will become. Wait until he comes back from the war and be totally honest with him about what happened. I honestly wish you well as l know that this would be a terrible burden to bare on your own. Best of luck to you
2007-01-14 23:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you slept with someone else before getting married because you thought you couldn't get pregnant? What the hell kind of excuse is that? Well girl, this is not a miracle child it is one you could have conceived with your Husband. You should be ashamed more than distraught. Now would not be a good time to tell him being at war but you sure had better make sure who the Father is before he comes home as down the road it will come out. You are going to have to live with this.
2007-01-14 22:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you 100% sure it's not his? If there's a possibility that this child can be his, then I would get a paternity test to confirm if he's the father or not. I would tell him the minute he gets back from war. The longer you keep this from him, the more hurt he'll be when he finds out. Unfortunately, you'll have to face the music and accept whatever decision he makes about your marriage. Good luck!
2007-01-14 23:48:10 · answer #3 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell him when he comes back, it is the right thing to do. If you don't tell him and years down the road he finds out it will be much worse. How do you truly know that it is not his anyway? I would get a blood test done when the baby is born to find out and maybe you will find that it is your husband's after all. Good luck
2007-01-14 22:49:23 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 05:38:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him but the timing and the way you explain it are very important! I would wait until he is back from his military service. Does the military provide you and him with a psychiatrist resource to handle the separation time and what he has to endure in afghanistan? I would tell him to put you in touch with one. Tell him your feeling down and would like to talk to one and then explain your situation to the psychiatrist and perhaps the psychiatrist can help you to understand how to handle this situation and how to convey it to your husband. Maybe the psychiatrist will intermediate for you and you can explain it to him
2007-01-14 22:56:27 · answer #6 · answered by amndawd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only solution is to be truthful and ask for forgiveness if you want to save your marriage. Maybe you should be questioning if you are committed to this marriage as obligation is no reason to stay married and either is guilt as it's really unfair to all involved especially your husband.
2007-01-14 22:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that it's not his? Do a blood test to find out that the child really belongs to who you think it does and don't do it on Maury for shite's sake! Then tell your husband after he comes home. Who knows though, he might die out there and then you'll never have to tell him!
2007-01-14 22:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
neva he might go there n end his life cos he's thinking thats his reason for being alive now and he would fight hard to come back to his little wonder and u tell him the kids not his someone's gonna go down but it wont be the kid
2007-01-14 23:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by lilac. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him know. Don't have him thinking that the baby is his, when it's not. The sooner, the better for everyone.
2007-01-15 01:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Reggie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋