Is it so wrong for me to feel jealous, hurt, and angry? I feel like maybe it's not my right to be upset because they deserve to be happy and all...but then again, he knew about the feelings I had for her and how long I had had them...he didn't even ask me or tell me, I had to find out on my own. She also didn't seem to care that it was my best friend. Most of my closest friends are in an inner circle, and we've all remained friends for years even after graduating and going off to college, etc. However, I just can't be around this friend of mine and this girl he's dating I used to like...I get way too torn up inside. My friends feel like I'm abandoning them by not being around. They're trying to get me to "work things out" but I don't know how. I've tried to change the way I feel, I really have, but I just can't! Also, this friend of mine is probably going to get very mad at me now that I've told him just how I feel. Help?!
2007-01-14 22:17:07 · 7 answers · asked by The Doctor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I really just don't know what to do. I've lost a lot of sleep over this the past several weeks. I don't want to be selfish, I want everyone to be happy, but when I tried to hide or control my feelings to make everyone else happy, I just felt like I was dying inside and I started hating myself for feeling the way I do.
2007-01-14 22:20:32 · update #1
btw, i don't know if it changes anything, but I had asked her out before. She knew how I felt too.
2007-01-14 22:37:11 · update #2
I know that I need to move on, I agree, I just want to know how I can get rid of these feelings because I don't like them.
2007-01-14 22:37:58 · update #3
Jealousy is present in every human on earth. It is also present in most animal species.
2007-01-14 22:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel jealous, hurt and angry because you will feel that your friend has betrayed you. Infact he didn't betray you at all because this girl wasn't your g/f. All you have to do is to stop acting this way and stop thinking that she could have been your g/f. All you have to do is to blame yourself cause from what you have said, you never asked her out, right? If so then, I'm sorry to say that this is all your fault.
And never get angry with your friend or with his g/f cause they didn't do anything wrong. Though your friend knew about your feelings, he couldn't control his feelings for her and took the opportunity to ask her out.
Regarding your other friends, I think that they are right and you should work things out and start again meeting them. Try to find a girl yourself so that you'll stop thinking about your friend's g/f. Start telling to yourself that now she has a man to look for her and take care about her. I'm not saying this because I think you wouldn't look for her but infact you weren't there for her cause you never asked her out.
Good Luck mate.
2007-01-14 22:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its going to be very hard for you to see your ex gf dating your best friend, why don't find another girl and you will get over her. I guess you still have a strong feeling for her and if i were you i probably go live somehere else and forget everything behind me. Find new places to live, making new friends or enjoying yourself with other friends. Try to keep yourself occupied and he knows why you avoided him but your best friend didnt know how it feels coz it never happen to him and you ex gf just wanted to enjoy her life and didnt care about anyone feeling. She is being selfish and i think you can find a better girl than her.
2007-01-14 22:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by sweetgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U r being unfair. Once u have done away with a relationship, it is immaterial as to with whom ur gf starts a new relationship. It might have been a different matter if the friend was the cause of ur friction with the gf.
2007-01-14 22:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i pity u. im in the same situation bt i feel that i didnt own that guy so he deserves to have the best tho i feel hurt. i really love him bt i can;t do anythg that will hurt him. if he is happy with that girl i shudnt hav any probs in that. so i'll advise u to b indiffrent to the situation n move on with ur frns. i'll do that to.
2007-01-14 22:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her, it going to be tricky yet completely do it. purely ensure you tell her that in case you wreck up along with her which you do not decide to lose the stable friendship.. comparable element ensue to me and im going out with my terrific pal (i'm a woman). we are able to be 3 years in a week precisely(: sturdy success
2016-10-07 04:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but when you snooze you loose
2007-01-14 22:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋