My partner asked me to live with him 3 years ago so I did, and now he tells me he loves me, I make him very happy, but that he needs more and wants me to leave!! His wife left him for another man and he still has feelings for her ( they were together 25 years), and wants someone like her (a professional person, private education, cambridge education, like my man) I tell him as long as we love each other and are happy what more is there? He says I'm different from his ex and so much better - so why does he want to go back to someone like that. His parents even say I make him happy and he looks so much happier. What more is there???
2007-01-14 22:02:39 · 25 answers · asked by blue_sapphire07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honestly, this isn't about you, it's about his unresolved feelings. This is something that he has to deal with and get through on his own and in his own time. I know that it's hard to understand and hard to not take it personally, but you shouldn't. He cannot have a good, lasting relationship with you or anyone else until these old feelings are resolved and the old wounds heal. Give him some time and space to deal with this. If you were meant to be together things will find a way to work themselves out.
2007-01-14 23:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like another Cambridge Panty Waste to me.
Pack up all the good stuff, and get the heck away from him.
You want to know why his Ex left him for another man? Because he is a cream puff unable to stand up and act like a man every once in a while.
2007-01-15 06:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him, my dear, he wants his cake and eat it, too. Better to leave if the fool doesn't know when he's better off. Look, I've need someone for awhile. my wife is passed on, but I am not THAT old. I've got plenty of room. The second floor isn't even used, except for storage(though my son's room is up there). I'm a very nice gentleman, as well as well educated. Of course you'd probably be better off alone then with someone who doesn't appreciate you.
2007-01-15 06:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look I'm not going to judge or make half-baked psycho profiles about somebody I don't know on the sketchy bit of info that you have provided. Instead I will ask you to take everything you know and apply it to a hypothetical third person and read your own advice and if you come up with anything other than this situation has more to it than meets the eye then you really are living in a strange bizarro land.
2007-01-15 06:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is mixed up and enjoys attaching labels and worth to others by their accomplishments. If you can make him happy then you can also make yourself much happier leaving him. Find a man who celebrates you for being just what you are.
He sounds like a boring, snobby, geezer who is not worth your time of day. Send him packing to his wife as it sounds like they deserve each other. Karma can be so perfect. Good luck.
2007-01-15 06:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but it sounds like he is seeing someone else. If not, and he has a problem because you didn't go to Cambridge etc. etc. then he is an idiot and you should kick him into the kerb and find someone that respects you.
I'm a man, we can be arseholes at times.
2007-01-15 06:10:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bum Gravy. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically - he's lying! There is either someone else already OR he doesnt love you as much as he says he does OR you don't make him happy even though he is saying so. He wouldnt want to leave if you made him truly truly deep down happy, would he? He sounds a snob to me!
2007-01-15 11:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has nothing to do with you,and all that crap about you are better and shes a professional,hes just filling you with bunch Of hipe...the bottom line is he is still in Love with his wife and wants her back..He spent 25 years with this woman of his and they have a long history togeather,and he loves her....She left him and since he could not have her because she chose someone else then hes just making due...If she is available now he wants her back,if she isn,t available then he is just spinning his wheels looking for someone like her...Hes just still in love with his wife and no woman regardless of anything you do he will not be able to go orward until he gets this wife or ex wife out of his system.
2007-01-15 06:37:47 · answer #8 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, you have been used. I have always thought that if a man asked me to move in with him I would be insulted. Aren't I good enough to marry? Let his ex have him. He sounds very shallow and snobbish. I hope things work out much better for you.
2007-01-15 06:30:26 · answer #9 · answered by Ripplediane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what more there is: Appreciation for the devotion you have given him picking up the pieces after his wife walked out 3 years ago.
2007-01-15 06:32:52 · answer #10 · answered by Cynthia D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋