2007-01-14 21:49:22 · 18 answers · asked by flygirl 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I might not have any credibility answering this question as I'm a straight man (and white to boot). I know that in our society I've never experienced any prejudice. But for what it's worth I really believe that you need to find yourself and be that. Then dig some more and find yourself some more... and be that. If there's anyone that can't love you totally as you are then you should find a way to live without them in your life. What kind of love is it that requires you to be what they want you to be, not what you are?
Being gay is not being broken... not something that we should "fix". It's what you are and you should be free to be that. People that love you must accept that they love a gay woman... or else they don't love you. Not so?
Anyway, just my opinion. Whatever you decide, I hope you find all the love, respect and peace that you deserve.
2007-01-14 22:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them about being gay because this is the truth and there is nothing more conservative and traditional than the truth...The fact of you being gay, does not make you not to care about the same values that they care.
I am not gay but I know some gay guys whom are a caring and a wonderful father, while mine not gay father, was one of the worst types I ever heard about. What I am trying to say, is that what most counts in a person, is not their sexuality but their nature. Being honest with those whom raise you is a valuable and a faithfully way to show your gratitude. You don't have to adopt a disrespectful attitude to make yourself understood.
2007-01-15 06:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your family, your age and if you want to play it safe or true.
If you're still a minor (it doesn't sound like it) and your family is fundamentalist Christian or insanely homophobic, DO NOT TELL THEM now. The consequences for doing so can be catastrophic. Wait until they have no control over your life.
The honest and open is the path to greater mental health. The only reason not to is you need their financial and/or emotional support more than you need your mental well-being and an honest relationship with them.
2007-01-15 18:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by ftm_poolshark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, be open and honest. You can't be happy if you are not out of the so called "closet". They may be shocked, but if they love you they will come around. Be prepared for having a rocky start with them.
Good luck.
2007-01-15 05:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Aliz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you should always be yourself. I know exactly how you feel.But if you are not being true to yourself,then you are not going to be completely happy. It is not easy to tell your parents that you are gay or bi. You should not be ashamed of who you are. I was scared to death of telling my family that I am bisexual.But when I told them,I felt such relief,because I was no longer hiding from who I am.My family didn't take it very well,but I had wonderful support from my friends.I wish you all the best. :)
2007-01-15 07:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watever you do, just be yourself. do wats gud for you and not others?
change for the better watever it maybe but never force yourself?
since its a family matter, they should have known more or less. gauge on their acceptance and proceed from there. if the acceptance is good, improve on it and if not just retreat.
ultimately, you've have to live and deal with it...long term.
tread carefully and it'll benefit everyone. watever the outcome.
somethings can't be changed but have to proceed, do it with tact and to your contentment.
good luck and remember, patience and tolerance goes a long way and rewarding too.
2007-01-15 19:14:49 · answer #6 · answered by Peggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's got to happen eventually. If you're in a position where you don't need to rely upon your family for survival anymore, I say go for it; the sooner the better. To quote one John Stewart: you can't catch gay, but gay CAN catch you.
2007-01-15 15:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're dependent on them financially, it might be best to wait until you're out of the house and on your own. Otherwise, there's no reason to keep it hidden. You should be proud of who you are. Most likely, they'll get over it.
2007-01-15 06:03:11 · answer #8 · answered by Oz W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see no reason to hide your feelings on the subject.really most gay people are happy with their choices....I have a friend that says she is gay and all her family knows.Why hide it???
2007-01-15 05:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you want to live your life. Honestly and openly or not. Personally, I think the truth is always the right way to go.
2007-01-15 06:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋