I am going to married a young girl.but there is a difference of 10 years between us. That is why I am re-thinking about this matter. Actually I am in confusion.
2007-01-14 21:26:51 · 18 answers · asked by Hari 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hi hari
this is deepti
i can say all about ur question that if u love her
then age difference hardly matters
though it matters if u wont trust her, but in case of true love nothing to worry , on the other side she'll feel more secured and also her childish things make u to love her more , which is the best part in a relationship..
all the best
2007-01-14 21:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by rukiya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship to last long, must have compatibility in all respects. Girls generally mature faster than boys. Hence, some difference in age will be good. 10 years is a big difference. There are cases where it worked with more age difference than yours. When you live with a person too young for you, you may find it difficult to adjust yourself to her. And the girl, might feel miserable. You need to show a good measure of understanding and patience while dealing with her. Consider all aspects of the matter and decide.
2007-01-16 19:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a man 9 years older than me and that was 13 years ago. We are still married, still very much in love and were married when I was 21 and he was 30. We have a year old daughter and are thinking of expanding the family again this year. I think that if you are confident that this is the girl for you then go for it because you don't know what the future holds so make the most of the present. Good luck with whatever your choice is.
2007-01-14 21:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look everyone has said to u that age factor doesnt matter but i say it matters. coz after marrige u may have some problems like,she is 10 years younger then u . i agree that u both must love each other but love is not everything she is so young so she must b full of entusiasm,hopes and expectations but u must b more experienced then her towards life ,u know the reality of life .she may b mature but what about the age? in her age she is right and u also right, just think if she expects something like that which u think that is wrong or u cant ,coz ur experience says that is not right 4 her than what ? she will think that u r killing her desires.
2007-01-14 22:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by kashish d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that the girl knows about the age difference. If she does and is ready for the marriage and is fit otherwise, go ahead with the marriage. The problem is only in the attitudes and if that matches, age difference doesn't matter much.
2007-01-15 01:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is that if you love her and she loves you then there can be no problems. If you are worried about what people will say then let me tell you buddy most people today do not have the time to worry about other people's probs.Even if there are some weirdos who will find time to worry about your love life then believe me their opinions are not worth caring about.......it's your life you know.............I am saying all this presuming that you and the lady love each other because without love even the most equally matched souls cannot sustain a marriage.
And one more thing, marriage like everything else needs to be worked on it .A little more selflessness and a little less selfishness can work wonders in any relationship.:-)
2007-01-14 22:06:53 · answer #6 · answered by sam f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no harm at all. Prior to marriage try to read her thoughts through her body language or friends if you feel that she is willing then go ahead. If there is any negative sign then leave it. Age difference does not play any role in your future life but difference in opinion and thoughts (understanding) plays the important roles. If you feel that both of you are on the same frequency/wavelength then go ahead.
2007-01-14 21:57:18 · answer #7 · answered by Khan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in love then it shouldn't matter. My boyfriend is 11 years older then me. He is the first decent relationship I have ever had. I wouldn't care if anyone had a problem with our age difference. It doesn't bother us, and it shouldn't bother them. So don't worry what any else on here or anywhere says. As long as you love her, then go for it.
2007-01-14 21:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by jelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband was 7 years elder to me. it is the equal wave length that matters, not the age factor (upto 12-13 years is ok) . i would not be too happy to see a couple who were having a huge age difference of say 20 years or more.
2007-01-14 21:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Renu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number and if the two are really in love I don't have a problem with it. Others will.
2007-01-14 21:30:42 · answer #10 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋