I am a lesbian. Me and my gf of 4 years just broke up about 2 months ago. We had some problems, mainly petty arguments, plus I have OCD and it kinda drove her nuts but I went and got help for it like 6 months ago and now am taking 3 different pills plus getting help. My girl has bipolar and is so far untreated but wants help and will be getting it very soon. Plus I was living in the past, which part of that was from my OCD, and some not but once she left I realized what I had to fix and what I did wrong. The only other thing is she felt like she was "caged" sometimes cuz with my OCD and always being shy since childhood, I kinda changed who she was and we didn't have friends or hang out with people and I kinda didn't want her to talk to people at work. This is mainly do to my problem. But I have been trying very hard, honestly, to work on my problems harder and to realize things I did wrong. I love her and I feel like she is my soulmate. How do I prove to her I changed?
2007-01-14 20:52:13 · 5 answers · asked by nothing2express 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Go slow and easy. If you are sure that you've changed your ways, tell her that. Don't be controlling. Tell her that you want to get back together.
I don't think you should be all over, calling her and hanging around all the time saying you want her back... Keep your cool, say what you had said here; that you think that shes your soul mate, how much you love her and that you want to be with her... Then step back and wait a bit.
Be your-[changed]-self a bit. Let her realized that you've actually changed. Just by hearing that you've changed won't alter her mind... she's gotta see it herself...
Best of luck for the future! Cheers!
2007-01-15 00:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by Silver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know that you've changed but also give her time an space to see the difference in you just keep working on you for now that's the best you can do so sorry to hear about the ocd i have the same problem it took some time for my partner to realize it then we had to work on it together i drive all my love ones crazy all the time some days are better than others try getting out more and leave open end invitations to have her join you and relax every thing will work out for the best sooner or later
good luck
2007-01-14 21:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by ladykitcha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were too controlling. You can't just fix it like flipping on a light switch.
I'd tell her that you have changed and take it slow and easy. By all means try not to control her during this time. Once she starts getting help she'll probalby be better able to see that people can change.
2007-01-14 21:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by Raylene G. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest trying to see her no-strings-attatched. Go have coffee or something to catch up. If she asks, you can tell her how you're doing, but it's ultimately her decision if she wants you in her life again, and to what extent. And the more you force the issue, the more you'll push her away.
2007-01-15 07:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show her your clean underwear.
What's OCD?
2007-01-14 20:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by Dr Know It All 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋