In Love but not in love?

Question

I've been in a relationship now off and on for 2 years this march '07', We do have a 1 year old son together and i do love him dearly. He's not abusive toward me but he has lied and cheated on me numerous times and had gotten her pregnant while we were living together, we did split up for about 2 months and now we are trying to work out our problems but everytime we try to be passionate together i cant do it even thou when he's gone i miss all the good things we shared but lack the disire latley for sex my children just love the man and think highly of him mostly my too younger ones but in the long run it hurts me some times to know that he could say he loves me but then lie to me about her when he was confronted and still continue to see her i know he's not seeing her any more and i know there were others but i have no proof not sure i want to end the relationship cause i know my son will never see him and i'll miss him any ideas ?

Answer 1

You deserve better for yourself and for your kids. There is someone out there who will love you for you and not go after other women. Ditch this jerk!

Answer 2

Let me see if I have this strait! Your with a man that has not married you before or after your son was born. Hes cheated and lied to you numerous times . He has other children by another woman. A child Im sure he doesnt take care of. Nor sees. Your children see him as a father figure role model.
This is one of those times you know what you have to do! Your heart says , "No!" Your brain says, " Yes!" Thats to put that man on the road.
He had no respect for you. Never mind respect for your body by sleeping around. His role as the father figure only enforces to that young man of yours that how he decieves you is ok. Abuse isnt just being beaten. This kind of abuse can beat a womans confidnence. It only gets worse from here on out. Make your decision soon or live with it through your son and his girlfriend and grand children

Answer 3

If you do decide to leave him make sure you break up as friends for your son's sake and have a joined custody. It sounds like you have many problems and that your son is the only reason you've stayed with him. I don't understand if you ended it in good terms why wouldn't your son see him again. Think about how many people are able to raise their kids as friends after they are separated. It is entirely possible and think about this, does your son want to hear you fight all the time? only you know what to do though but my advice is if things really get out of control try to break up in good terms.

Answer 4

Hi, i think in my personal opinion its time for you to leave him. i agree that its not going to easy , but you deserve better, there are lots of better people out who u deserve and they deserve too.

I understand that leaving him is going to be tough on you since you folks have been together for a long time. But think abt it
the more u prolong this act of 'sustaining each other ' instead of having a happy life, the more the time you are going to give this relationship time , in hope that 'everything will be all right' , the pain is just building up every minute every second of the day and it is going to only get more and more instead of coming down.

So i think this is the time u should be thinking to yourself for some time, for your welfare, the welfare of the wonderful kids u love.

Just remember you deserve better!!!

P.S. I Hope didn't get too personal, sorry if i did

Answer 5

You might be in love...but i don't think he is...seems to me he just a selfish prick who wants lots of girls. Leave him cos for a person to lied n cheat...he will never stop...try moving out and live on ur own with ur kids...i mean, he ain't the only guy left in this world. Ask urself what sort of life u want, sharing with another woman? or have a guy all to urself? All the best.