I've been in a long distant relationship for the past 5 years...I'm in love with her. and yesterday I found out that she was cheating with a gaycoworker. we talked all night last night and she was saying she was sorry and that she wanted to still be with me. and that she didnt want to be with her and it was her being curious about women.questioning her she has been seeing her for months. Today when i talked to her, her story was still the same she wanted to be with me and was in love with me. but she thought it was best to be friends. I was hurt and crying so i said fine you want to be with her she consistantly said no i want to be by myself. so i called her later tonight and the girl picks up the phone and was saying **** about her being her girlfriend now and that she doesnt want to be with me and hangs up.3 times i called back, then my now exgirl answers and says she wants to be with her cause she there. I gave up my family and medical school 4 her. I have revenge in my heart4 her
2007-01-14 20:05:49 · 12 answers · asked by CONFUSSED 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry about what happened.
I think u need to take some time to yourself and figure out what's best for u.
The hurt will go away with time, and u'll have a clear mind. If she's this way now, maybe it wasn't right for u all along. Can u really rely on her?
Think about it, but give ur mind time to cool down. Pray and u'll feel better. Go out and enjoy yourself in the company of good friends etc.. or do something interesting to you, so you may feel happier.
God bless, good luck.
2007-01-14 20:25:40 · answer #1 · answered by just me.. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch that hurts. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm in a long distance relationship right now, and being by yourself when you know in your heart you shouldn't be alone is one of the hardest things I've ever delt with. Chances are she really does love you and really does want to be with you, but just can't take be alone. It could be that if you give her some time, she will get past this. That is if you're willing to do that. I hope it works out for you.
2007-01-15 04:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trust that you had in her, is gone for sure! So in every situation whateva she says or does, you will be suspecting her..
So it is best to leave her.... yes it is tough to leave her, because you did so many things for her. But at the end of the day, the whole relationship will be moving with a suspicious mind. So why go thru this...
just a note to ponder... all the best!
2007-01-15 04:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Reena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go, i know it's easier said than done, but at this point thats all that can be done. Begging her back is rediculous, and if so happened to come back, after you've begged then more than likely she would be miserable, which spels disaster. I know it hurts but in time you will feel better, don't look at what you gave up for her that will only make you feel worse just concentrate on moving on.
2007-01-15 04:12:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't imagine how you feel. I am sure this is a lesson for all who come across your posting, the lesson is called selfishness. Never be full of someone else that you lose you. Also, if you have goals, dreams, and aspirations and you find yourself choosing between the relationship and your goals it's time to lose the relationship.
2007-01-15 04:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge just makes you look pathetic and shows what power she has over you. Besides, you'd be wasting time and energy on someone who just doesn't deserve it.
The best revenge is getting your life together and living it in the best possible way.
End the drama, stop calling her.
2007-01-15 04:11:31 · answer #6 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let you have 3 choices: Pick it or Leave it...
1st : Don't marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without... but whatever you do, you'll regret it later.
2nd : Forgiveness is giving up my right to hate you for hurting me.
3rd : When a woman steals your lover, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him.
2007-01-15 04:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Coldie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your life. You will find a person who deserves that which you have to offer and get back to Medical School.
DO NOT expend your life and energy on negatives, Ultimately they will devour you. Look ahead.
2007-01-15 04:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my man cheated w/ a guy but he stopped and has been getting treated by me 24/7 since... your better off w/out the carpet muncher......you just wanted them both at the same time.
2007-01-15 04:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her and start over again. You dont want to get involved with messy **** like that. Look after number one :)
2007-01-15 04:15:34 · answer #10 · answered by millie3082 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋