since my childhood i knew that am into women,i've never thought of a partner who is a man,till i become 14 i had my first lesbian sex,when i got 18yrs old i had sex with a guy,i kept imaging that guy is a girl,the thing that makes me havin the doubt of bein a lesbian is that am at virgin active...some people says u will never know if u r lesbian or straight unless u have a proper sex with both...
do u think i am a lesbian or just discoverin my self?
2007-01-14 18:42:29 · 11 answers · asked by tara tara 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Umm first off, I don't know who told you that you have to sleep with both parties to know who you are. You know who you are by what you feel inside, you go by your heart and instinct. Secondly, I would say that you are a true lesbian if you have had feelings for woman ever since a little child. I believe the only reason you probably had sex with a guy at 18 is probably because you felt peer-pressure, or felt like you had to fit into society's mold. You said you have never had any feelings for men since childhood and even the time you did have sex with a guy you thought of a woman. So just be yourself g/f......you don't have to go sleeping around with a bunch of women.....but start hanging out with some other lesbians and then you will find yourself a g/f. By the way I am a lesbian too and I have known since childhood and known I never wanted to be with a guy, ever!
2007-01-14 20:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by nothing2express 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an easy one......if you look like a female and are a female then you are not a Lesbian but if you are biologically female and are really fat and ugly with short hair and a bad attitude you are most definately a Lesso or you may as well be.
I think you are just discovering.....try a guy and a girl at the same time and send me the pictures for a more comprehensive diagnosis.
Hot Chick = Hetero
Fat,ugly,trannie kind of thing = Lesso
2007-01-15 09:05:27 · answer #2 · answered by Nicholas B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you be a virgin if you have had sex with a guy at 18?
but anyway, i don't agree that you have to try out the same sex in order to label yourself gay or bi. but getting sexual, or even intimate (kissing, cuddling), in any way, can certainly help to clarify your feelings.
it is natural to want to experiment. we live in a world that tells us that we are supposed to be straight.. so natrually, most people will experiment with opposite sex first, as teens, usually with someone they are dating..
if you were imagining that the guy was a girl, and if you have no general attraction to men, if you have no desire to have a romance or relationship with men, then yes, you are probably a lesbian.
but don't be in a rush to label yourself. if you are still 18, then you are still learning and understanding your feelings.. don't be afraid to date men or women. just see how things go..
2007-01-15 03:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if youve had sex with both and have enjoyed both, ur bi, but if u kept thinking the boy was a girl on purpose, ur probably a lesbian!
good luck!
2007-01-15 03:00:39 · answer #4 · answered by Rin_san44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to be w/ both sex's unless that's what you want. if you enjoy being w/ women than be w/ women. or vs verse or both its just best to try to find someone that makes you fill good inside that you love it really shouldn't matter what there sex is
2007-01-15 05:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by ladykitcha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual orientation and sexual expression are two different things. If you're only sexually interested in women, then you're a lesbian. Ignore what other people say.
2007-01-15 03:41:10 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely like girls; as for whether you are lesbian or bi, find out whether you are physically attracted to guys. You don't need to have sex to find that out. If you aren't, you are lesbian, and if you are, you're bi. Welcome to the LGBT community :).
2007-01-15 03:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by guitarherofairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're Bi with a preference for women
2007-01-15 03:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever you feel you are just accept it and get on with life. I hope life is good for you.
2007-01-15 03:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what that virgin line means. you are most likely bisexual with a preferance for women. i dont know that it matters to anyone but you and your family.
2007-01-15 03:03:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋