I have been married for over twenty years.I have worked seventeen of these years outside the home sometimes working two jobs.I held one job for fifteen of these years.My husband finally gets a good paying job making enough money that I did not have to work to make ends meet anymore.Well things were good for a while and I quit my job that I had for so long because I was burnt out from it.I keep the house clean,cook good meals,and do everything around the home.Well my husband goes and gets us in over our heads in dept after we just got our bills in order.He bought two motorcycles and now he has more bills to pay and he wants me to go back to work in order to help out with these bills.I dont think it is right that he should do this to me.I think he should sell one of these motorcycles and pay off some of his dept.He says no way.This problem is not going to go away.
2007-01-14 18:18:01 · 7 answers · asked by ♥ liz ♥ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If it was me I would tell him the bike or me? There would be no way I'd be going back to work to pay off something i don't want. Besides he can ride two at the same time so why does he need two.
2007-01-14 19:22:54 · answer #1 · answered by MJ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If there's a problem there's a solution and obviously what you mentioned is something anybody can solve. Now that he purchased the bikes, it's already too late to blame instead you can make a suggestion not to do it again once he finished paying them off. Show him your supportive side. Let him know that you both need to work together to keep your financial standing in the positive and the frivilous spending is not necessary. Begin making plans today and not from months ago to avoid additional conflicts.
2007-01-14 18:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Friv 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need marriage counseling. Obviously you two cannot communicate, and cannot be respectful to each other. If you had respect you would have discussed a major purchase before going out and buying something like a motorcycle.
You have much deeper issues to sort out than money in your marriage.
2007-01-14 18:22:54 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately financial problems can ruin a marriage. It is not fair what your husband has done, and you should definitely put your foot down on this. Let him get a second job, to pay for his "toys" I hope everything works out for you!!
2007-01-14 18:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by ~ Just Me ~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that he sells it or loses it. That is one way for the problem to go away. If he wants two motorcycles he can get two jobs to pay for them. He is selfish.
2007-01-14 18:29:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its not right if he went and bought these things without talking to you first and you should tell him your not going back to work unless he makes an effort to try and get out of the mess he put y'all in. Good luck
2007-01-14 18:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by corene D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Financial stress is a big factor in divorces today. I would seek counseling immediately.
2007-01-14 23:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋