She hit me and I hit her back, then she hit me again. Can I hurt her please? She's only 2 but how much do I take?
2007-01-14 17:51:30 · 17 answers · asked by Lolitta 7 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Actually don't. No, I would never let anyone hit my kid except ME.
2007-01-14 17:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by Atlas 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
She reacted to something in your environment that caused her to hit you. She, at 2, has a limited ability to control her reactions and must be taught how. Through brain development and through experience she will learn how to react to stress in the environment. You, at whatever age you are at, reacted to your environmental stress the same way the 2 year old did, by hitting. Through example you taught her that hitting is the appropriate way to react, and you insure that she will continue to hit in the future. However, maybe she will learn from you, and realize that she should only hit people smaller than her, like you did.
Inform her parents that she is hitting you, that you can't deal with being hit, and that you cannot watch her anymore, at least not until she's older and isn't hitting anymore. Tell them it is not because you dislike the child, but because YOU can't and won't deal with being hit. They will probably be upset, but not nearly as upset as they will be when they discover you are hitting their child. If you continue to do it, even if you never leave a mark, they will find out at some point. And if you ever do leave a mark, or hurt the child, your life will never be recovered.
2007-01-15 02:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by theinfalliblenena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about "your" child or a child that you are "watching"?
To punish a child in your care WITHIN REASON is ok.
If the child is hitting you, I'd say the slap her hand and say NO!
NO! Stop hitting.
Just a quick slap should do...but, NOT real hard, remember she's only 2.
She'll probably temp you a few times,and cry but if you are consistant she will get the hint. and don't forget to give her a hug, and tell her why you slaped her hand.
If she is someones else's child, let them know what she did and what you did back.
You are entitled to not be abused by a child, just as she is entitled not to be abused by an Adult.
BTW: When my kids were small and I left them in someones care, I'd tell my child infront of the person, if you are bad and need a spanking you'll get it from so-n-so..
But I would ONLY do this if it was someone I would TRUST with my life or my childs life.
Also, If this isn't your child, I'd double ck with the parent, just to be on the safe side.
2007-01-15 02:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by iwish40 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well I believe that if a child is out of line (hitting an adult is out of line) they should be punished. Try time outs and stuff like that first if it continues then there is nothing wrong with spanking them. If you don't want your child to be punished by anyone other than you then you shouldn't place them in the care of someone else.
2007-01-15 02:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try reading 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan. This book is fabulous. I did not start using these techniques on my children until recently (they are 7 and 9) and it is working already. They recommend starting at age 2...so there isn't a better time. Whether you are the parent or caregiver. Good Luck!
2007-01-15 01:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is 2 then i wouldn't hurt her. Physical pain at that age might inflict mental damage also, and that isn't healthy for a 2 year old. Besides that it is at the Parents/Legal Guardian discretion.
2007-01-15 01:56:22 · answer #6 · answered by sapman1992 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not just no but hell no,But that depends also how you raise your children ,i don't allow nobody to touch my children ,not even my husband ,and hes the real father .
But you also have to do your part ,not to let your 2yr old hit anybody ,it starts from diapers .
2007-01-15 01:58:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"NO", and then "no" and after that "no", and when you are finished "no"
What part of "no" do you not understand.
A common 2 letter word for a 2 year old year old, is "no"!.
2007-01-15 02:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by atantatlantis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound's like it's bedtime for both of you. Be good to her and then tell the parents when they get home that you are to immature for babysitting. lol.
2007-01-15 01:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Time out. You are teaching her not to be physically aggressive by being physically aggressive.
2007-01-15 01:58:28 · answer #10 · answered by sno_glober 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋