why is life so unfair?i just broke up with my mentally abusive boyfriend and i'm left desetered like this. many times i felt like going back to him but my mom stopped me saying tht she can't see me getting abused. loneliness is kiling me. i'm 26 and i'm single and i dont have any close friends.I am all alone.i've even off'd my handset thinking no onw will be calling me. recently i broke up with a guy friend, coz he was over demanding and was forcing me to love him.i just didn't feel he's my type since he got this loud voice and he's a bit arrogant. I feel so lonely.what should i do/think or should i go back to my abusive bf to fill the gap of my sickening loneliness?
2007-01-14 17:42:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you're thinking of going back to a man that hit you, then he didn't hit you hard enough!
You should enjoy this time now. You're free and have no responsibilities. You think it's bad being single? Read some of the questions of the people who are in relationships. See, the grass is always greener.
2007-01-14 17:59:42 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never go back to someone out of loneliness, especially someone who is abusive. Occupy your time doing things u enjoy, things that make u happy to take your mind off of how u are feeling right now. Don't even look for another guy right now because u will end up settling for anyone just to have someone in your life. Work on "u" and realize u are a good person and deserve someone who is going to treat u with respect and love. When the time is right and when u are least expecting it someone will enter your life that is right for u. Try not to think of how lonely u are, try to think about how lucky u are to be out of that abusive relationship and how wrong he was for u. Time heals everything u will see. Good luck :-)
2007-01-15 01:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nonsense! Stand on your own two feet. Instead of bemoaning your fate and feeling sorry for yourself, put your effort into working on your career. Do some self help things.
And spend some time volunteering to help others.
Get some counseling if you need it.
Why settle for abuse? That's certainly no way to spend the only lifetime you have.
If you are wise enough to wait, love will come along. Just be smart enough to improve yourself and fill your life with good things for right now.
2007-01-14 17:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ma dear, everytime when u loose something that u have been attached to, naturally u go through a mourning period. Its a temporary situation and dont concentrate on it. the beautiful part of it is that , it is giving u time to take stock of yourself, why u attract such king of guys ( remember the other guy friend) and really get to know yourself.
U have a great supportive mum, lucky u and be thankful for that.
whatever u do, DONT GO BACK. and life has been so fair to u in this scenario.
good luck as u go through this period.
Ive been there
2007-01-14 18:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by LadyK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it looks and feels unfair cause you permit it to be unfair. It is up to you to make it fair.NO you should not go back with your old boyfriend. okay, it is depression and it is a sickness. EAT a few leaves of CILANDRO it is found in the vegetable section at the grocery. it will help your mind... well for some reason you feel like this... you don't have any friends, and those ex's of yours know it.. so you need to make friends... meet your friends at the library, free concerts, music stores, parks,or places you like to be or do things at. try to find a job, it will keep you busy and in time you will meet a good man. stay away from toxic people, like your ex..make good friends here in yahoo.. examan yourself, too and if need be, change a little. love yourself more, and love people... learn to love and let yourself be loved. trust good people.. you will know them by there actions.....
2007-01-14 19:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by bankone1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never go back to him! Join a class or the gym or anything that you are interested in and meet some people. Or you can just ask people that you work with if they want to go out to eat or if they know anyone for you. By the way I am sorry that you feel like that. It will get better with time. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-01-14 17:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for now, I think you should just wait for the right one to come along. You dont need to rush. Just think on what you want & what will make you happy. Dont be in relationship w/ someone who hurts you though, thats not good. But yeah, just enjoy the things around you, try to get back in the game w/ old friends. Call 'em up & just catch up. I feel you tho, it`s not fun being single, but "blessings come w/ patience" You`ll see.
2007-01-14 17:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by LENE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl spend some time alone get to know yourself. Some times God steps into our life and take those people out, who may one day harm you. Take this time and talk to Jesus about your fears.You're 26 don't go back to a man who can't love you, you're still young there's someone out there for you.I found out when you help others you forget about your problems.
2007-01-14 18:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by sharon j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him. You are going through a period of mourning. It will pass. The most important thing right now is not to worry about being single.
You need to get yourself strong and healthy inside. Read. Attend church, synagogue, whatever. Think of something you like to do, sewing, knitting, something that gets you with other people.
It's hard, REALLY hard, but it can be done.
Don't go back. Get counseling and get strong. You'll be ok. I promise.
2007-01-14 17:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by autimom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need people around you who really care about you - you don't need your abusive boyfriend. Start making friends with other women and they can keep you company. You might not want to date again until you're totally over this guy!
2007-01-14 17:53:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋