My bf is in jail now and gets out at the end of Feb. What kinds of things can he do to bond with our son (he'll be about 6.5 mo's old then) when he gets out? Will he know his voice from in the womb? Will he have a hard time accepting new people then?
Any advice, thanks so much
Connie
2007-01-14 17:35:57 · 18 answers · asked by Connie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
The best way for him to bond in that situation would be to have your bf share duties at first, changing, feeding, etc, equally, where your son can see both of you at the same time, then slowly let him do more and more until he can do it all himself. Just doing the everyday tasks, not to mention playing and talking to your son will help them bond. Good luck!
2007-01-14 17:44:38 · answer #1 · answered by heartlostangel 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your son does have the right to know he has a bio father when he is older. You need to leave out all the details about the spanking, etc. If you bad mouth his dad, the son will hate you for it. You could start out slow with other people he knows from school or relatives....he has 2 Dads, or she has 2 Dads. Ease into telling him, so it won't be such a shock. Kids are very smart at young ages. He will resent it if you don't tell him when he is ready. He may ask, "Do I have 2 Dads like so and so?" Always answer with the truth, so he will respect your answers at truth.
2016-05-24 04:05:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will most certainly know is voice if he has been hearing it in the womb. During the 6.5 months I would be showing the baby pictures of his father and saying "DaDa" and telling him that his daddy loves him. Also, if you have a shirt or blanket or something that has his father's scent on it I would let the baby play and/or sleep with it! Congrats & GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-22 09:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by all_around_tha_mullberri_busch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your baby's father should just sit with the child, play with the child, feed the child, and be a father to the child. The father should be around the baby as much as possible if he wants to bond with the child. It will not take that long for the two to bond because the baby is still an infant.
2007-01-21 19:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf is also in jail rite now & won't be back untill mid-March after being gone 6 months. We have an 8 month old son & 3 year old daughter. Rite now I alternate taking our kids to visit him and every time he calls they both get to listen to his voice over the phone. I show our son pictures everyday and tell him that's dada. Upon his release he plans to be there every minute with our son & daughter. We even have a family trip to California planned for April. But playing simple games, reading books together, feeding and bathing our son is his big plan to re-bond. For our daughter he wants to read books, draw and color pictures, and playing catch with her. But most of all just be there by their side to reassure he's not leaving again is a biggie.
2007-01-14 17:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
At that age, the best thing is to have your bf share in the basic needs of your son...diapers, feedings (bottle if doing so, or solids). And yes, babies do recognize voices they heard while still in the uterus. It is possible that he may start to have stranger anxiety, but don't let that discourage your bf...just start slowly, and eventually his son will love him as much as he loves you.
2007-01-22 03:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by 1stTimeMom_07_04_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAlk to your baby about his father, tell him why he is special for you and for him. When he is born, show him pictures of his daddy and tell him that very soon you will be together. When he gets out of jail, involve him in all the parent chores, you will be fine! Don't worry! Your kid will love his daddy!
2007-01-22 16:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he can do is hold him and show him love and he should bond to him. Take him to see him before he gets out if you are able to maybe that will help him get to know him before he does get home. Good Luck to you . I wish you and your family the best.....
2007-01-19 03:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by s_miller_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, this is a great time. it doesn't matter the child is to young. trust me they will bond great. you don't need to worry. the can always love to know each other. the baby might like him to deal with it before he wants you while you trippin
2007-01-14 17:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that he should read him bedtime stories before he goes to sleep even though your son is too young to understand what his father is saying it will be good for him to hear his voice before sleeping.
2007-01-19 13:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by helizy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋