i have a friend and she did something bad to somethingi really liked and she didnt care all she did was "im sorry" and she said in a mean ish way like she didnt care. i havent calle her sence but she had called a few
2007-01-14 17:18:12 · 8 answers · asked by lyd m. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Hello there! I honestly think you shouldn't hold a grudge because you are just about bringing yourself to the level she is. I know how it feels, don't worry. I let out my feelings by writing in my diary, speaking to water then pouring it away, or writing your feelings on a piece of paper then burning it... Don't worry, be happy... Go shopping, I always do that when I'm sad... Hope I helped!!
2007-01-14 17:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she called you, did you speak with her? Has she sincerely apologized? Obviously, this is eating at you. Call her to arrange to meet her face to face. Tell her "I'm here because I value our friendship. I assume that you do, too. I am no longer upset about the loss of my____. I was taken aback by the reaction I received when I first discovered it had been ruined. I've been hoping to hear a sincere apology. The apology that I heard sounded insincere. I think it probably sounded that way because you felt bad about it and didn't mean to do it." Then be quiet and give her a chance to respond. Notice all statements whenever possible were in "I" statements. Using "you" is accusatory and will only cause the other party to get their back up. This way you give her an out so that she can gracefully apologize. This will keep your friendship, your self-worth and her obviously fragile self-esteem intact. Good luck. Whatever happens, move forward. Grudges poison only the person holding them. Don't give anyone that power over you.
2007-01-14 17:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Loki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold a grudge. Move on. Life is too short to play invisible tuggle? wars, so give up the ghost and forgive her, or leave her alone. Whatever your decision is, make sure it is best for you and you won't regret it.
2007-01-14 17:26:52 · answer #3 · answered by recordexec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grudges are bad for you. but at the same time you can forgive someone but still say sorry i can't be your friend anymore. if they are someone that's a bad person and doesn't care if they do something bad then you may want to decide not to be that person's friend anymore.
2007-01-14 17:30:06 · answer #4 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well is she was a good friend and you value her friendship, then no. Seems like she is already holding a grudge. So keep trying to communicate with her...
2007-01-14 17:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK NO!! don't care what the situation is life is to short to hold a grudge. all i can say is get over it!! harsh yes it is but nothing in life is so sweet and dandy its water under the bridge get over it quit moping
2007-01-14 17:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by mastriss87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should hold a grudge n if she ask wats wrong than tell her in amean way if she still says srry in a mean way ordoes not care she is not a good friend
2007-01-14 17:38:16 · answer #7 · answered by Rebecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friends forgive the forgivable stuff. If you are planning on continuing being friends with her don't make her sweat it more than three days. After all she knows she hurt you she just can't express herself with style or grace.
2007-01-14 18:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Kim D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋