My husband and I have been arguing on and off for about 2 yrs now. When I tell him how frustrated I am about things he just gives me the evil eye and stares me out, even when I ask him to talk to me! What do I do?
2007-01-14 17:06:59 · 16 answers · asked by sarandjas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he's not willing to work things out. are there other problems? if he's not even willing to talk to you then he's not even willing to work things out.
2007-01-14 17:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, give it a rest. When you are both feeling calmer, explain to him that the lack of communication and arguing has taken it's toll on you. Then calmly ask him how he is feeling in that regard too. If he cannot, and will not talk - perhaps one of you should leave for a little while. Sometimes, that makes it and/or breaks it. Hard as that may be. But two years is a long time of going without love and communication. He may not understand you and vice-versa, it happens. If you are miserable, try separating for a while. Let things cool down.
2007-01-14 17:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he has communication issues, something you should have observed before you married him, as I'm assuming he has always been this way. You can't force him to talk if he doesn't want to. What are you frustrated about? Is it something serious or some small, insignificant thing that he doesn't feel the need to concern himself with?. If he isn't willing to talk, the relationship can't survive. Try counseling, if that isn't an option or doesn't work out, leave him ... it won't get better if he isn't willing to change for the sake of the marriage.
2007-01-14 17:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by Desiree 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Change the situation. If you are unhappy and have been arguing for two years, change it! If he isn't interested in making your marriage work, then you have two choices. Live with the way things are OR leave. Unless you are absolutely devoted to the man or you feel you can't make it financially without him. Try turning your frustration into something positive that will work for you.
2007-01-14 17:11:48 · answer #4 · answered by wanninonni 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you shoud consider moving on ! Take this into account:you have been arguing for two years and you are no better today than you were two years ago.Fustration tends to happen when you have a problem you cannot fix so either fix it or get out of it. Get out while you can, life is too short to deal with someone like this and be unhappy!
2007-01-14 17:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by nene 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's not very sensible, is it. Sounds like my father's side of the family; they're pretty unreasonable, and I'm still trying to figure out how to deal with conflicts with them. Your situation is made more difficult since him being a man, he may have a subconscious habit of writing you off since you're not physically threatening. I think you need to bring in outside help, whether that's a shrink, a pastor or priest, or a good friend who will be fair to both your sides.
Also, instead of just venting your frustrations, you should try to find solutions (on your own and with him) to your problem. His icy glare may be his way of being frustrated with your frustrations.
2007-01-14 17:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Jacob P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WOW!!! Our husbands must know each other!!
Well I tried just saying listen we NEED TO TALK!! Can't you understand where I am comeing from? Or if you are really fead up....(take the kids and leave for a day or 2) he will get the point and tell him you are not coming back until this is resolved!!
I hate when they try to do a "blame switch" and look at you like you are totally whack!! when it's them who obviously has the problem!!
Good luck!!
email me if you want
2007-01-14 17:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by carebarri 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask HIM if he is happy in your relationship. Ask him what YOU can do to make it better. Make it a sincere offer. I would bet that you are confrontational when you are asking him or you are enough that we that he sees you as being confrontational.
Guys are not as complicated as women.
Everything you said here is about you. You 'tell' him and ask him to do something for you.
It is time you started giving to him.
And I wish you luck.
2007-01-14 17:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by g g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but I think you either need to accept or leave. I am in the same situation right now and I think i have to leave. His sisters love me and want me to stay but they know their brother is a stubborn ASS. Its soooo hard but I hate him more than hes made me hate myself
2007-01-14 17:11:34 · answer #9 · answered by melissaw219 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if a man like him maybe he didnt love you at all.i think a man love a woman,he should understand all about of her and never let her alone.Just to know your husband well.
2007-01-14 17:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by ahchongwin 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Put in the Beyonce cd and play irreplaceable and tell him to the left, to the left
2007-01-14 17:13:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋