Is it normal to be interested in having anal sex with your wife? If she is hesitant at times, but does not say no, what should you do? I want her to enjoy it, but don't know how to introduce it to her.
2007-01-14 17:05:38 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes, it's normal. Millions of heterosexual couples enjoy anal sex. The most important things are to use LOTS of lube and to go very slowly. Naturally, if she isn't interested & willing, DON'T even think of going there!
2007-01-14 17:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by gelfling 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Talk about it a little so that when you attempt to coerce her into it, she doesn't freak out. Give her multiple orgasms orally, and when she is good and lubricated and relaxed, start with a finger or two.... get where I'm going? Lead up to it, don't just shove it in there, for the love of Pete.
lubrication is key
2007-01-15 01:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it is normal. Just use protection, and read up on it, so you both can make an informed choice.
I hope you have a good marriage, because sex problems can make a so-so marriage go bad.
2007-01-15 01:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by amaxxama 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
can't help ya there, cuz I'm still fighting that one! But, I can tell you some women are worried that you'll like the back door better than the front, especially after having a baby.
2007-01-15 01:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's normal. If you arouse her significantly and then attempt it she will respond positively (unless she has a deep seated dislike). If she does have a problem she will let you know by her body language, in which case you should simply back off.
2007-01-15 01:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by scottyusa1 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. It really hurts, so she's probably scared. Tell her you are going to do it and see if she stops you. Don't rape her or anything. Use a lot of lube and go slowly. My wife likes to control insertion.
2007-01-15 01:11:25 · answer #6 · answered by tokes 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you are willing to buy a small dildo and practice on yourself first, in order to get it down correctly. That way she'll know you are sincere.
I have a dentist who gives painless shots of novocaine. one day he told me his secret for being so darn good at giving painless shots. it's because he practices on himself. what a guy, eh?
I mean, talk about professional.
2007-01-17 20:56:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle and go slowly!!! Also, make sure that you use a healthy amount of lube. If she becomes uncomfortable or it hurts, stop.
2007-01-15 01:09:53 · answer #8 · answered by M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Every man who wants anal sex should take a cucumber up the bunger first.
2007-01-15 01:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
i thought you meant anal on yourself . Sorry but she has to approach it first you can not just jump on.
2007-01-15 01:08:44 · answer #10 · answered by nelle5217 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋