My husband has ADD and is only now taking meds for it. He spends all his time with his guitars, his band and his computer. We don't do anything together anymore, and I have few friends. My family is nearby, but there's only so much you tell your Mom. I just want to be happy again. Working weekdays and Saturdays 8-5pm, where and when do I do that? I like having guy friends, but I'm not looking for love. How can I make ME happy again?
2007-01-14 16:56:42 · 14 answers · asked by Gypsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to your husband, make sure he knows exactly how you feel. I was in this same exact situation (my husbands addiction was coaching) and I cheated. Big Mistake. I want my marriage back.
2007-01-14 17:10:40 · answer #1 · answered by Oops 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're throwing away your marriage , given which you at the instant are not happy, Is he happy? it is a 2 way highway. If he's happy, you would be happy. you will get counciling. To be happy there are ten regulations to follow: a million. supply something away. 2. Do a kindness 3. supply thank you constantly for what you have. 4. paintings with vim and vigar. 5. pass to the elderly and learn from them. 6. look carefully into the face of an adolescent and ask your self. 7. snort regularly it is lifestyles's lubricant 8. Pray to comprehend God's way 9. Plan as in case you will stay consistently --you will. 10. stay as though as we communicate is your final day on earth. understanding others are happy will make you happy. till you basically care approximately your self.
2016-12-16 04:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by karsten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By getting a divorce and starting over. You will like the single life. As long as you don't have kids, you might have a lot of fun just going out dancing with the gals when they go--------with them at the club where they go to dance with men, I mean. Oh well HELL!! Dump him and dance with EVERYBODY!!! Divorce is for people that are unhappy and bored to death with each other, and your present situation is going to push you into depression. That is a good enough reason. You don't have to give him a speech. Just tell him you want a divorce as nicely as you can.
Good Luck!! @8-)
2007-01-14 17:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to spend more time with your husband, talk to him about it; don't nag him, try to make him feel guilty, etc. just ask him to spend time with you; also, try to spend time 'doing' something that interests you both. Also, get out of the house on your own some times; go meet friends somewhere, start conversations with strangers in coffee shops. Finally, get a hobby of your own. Also, if you're having to work so hard, and hubby is spending no time with you, then its time he gets up off his *** and gets a better job, ADD is no excuse.
2007-01-14 17:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jacob P 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to him, and let him know your feelings. Find things he may want to do with you or you can take up learning an instrument. That would make him feel good. You never know, until you discuss it openly without accusations or belittlement.
You could also seek counseling and ask if he would like to go with you. I would strongly suggest you NOT go out and try to satify yourself sexually or socially with men outside of your bounds of marriage. Trust in your husband and try to help him understand you and your needs. My God bless you in your search.
2007-01-14 17:05:01 · answer #5 · answered by amaxxama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi
why dont you make frendship with people like me
i cant say we can make you hapy you always. but some time we hav give some kind happines in ur life
just try
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2007-01-14 17:10:25 · answer #6 · answered by dracu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should travel! Go visit Europe, Asia, South America, whatever!
2007-01-14 17:00:17 · answer #7 · answered by DeadmanWalks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
soo how did fall in love...was it the fact he played in a band ....maybe you never really did do anything...maybe what attacted you to him is not there anymore
2007-01-14 17:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by Bob 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are there any women on your job that you have something in common with? Maybe you could make friends with them, and they could keep you company.
2007-01-14 17:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just do the things that make you happy...shopping...start playing guitar with him....work out.....start a new career...you know, don't listen to me, i'm unhappy too.
2007-01-14 17:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋