we send her child support which she doesnt use 4 the kids, we still have 2 buy them all their school clothes and everything else they need or she WILL NOT GET IT 4 them. we live 3 hours apart, n in the last year she would not even meet us half way 2 pick them up, if we ask her 2 she calls 20 times in a row complaining bout it...no joke my finaces daughter moved in wit us 1 month ago cuz her mom threw her out so we got a lawyer, enrolled her n school @ all that she was wanting 2 move back there w/ her mom, her mom wouldnt let her until she got a letter saying child support was going down by $80 a week..now she is letting her come back home @ we are stuck w/ the lawyer fees....cuz she will not pay part of them...even though she threw her out. And she will NOT even come @ get her daughters things..after we hauled them here in about 6 trips cuz we have a small car.....@ the ex-wife has a truck n could do it in 1 trip..n has the kids to where they wont talk to their dad. what do u do????
2007-01-14 16:46:56 · 10 answers · asked by Ashley R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
woah so frustrating. i dont even know what to do!!
2007-01-14 16:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by Orange? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What a mess! AS I am not familiar with the laws where you are I am wondering if you have access to such a thing like a parenting agreement which is devised by parents with the assistance of a decision of the Family Ct in Australia. Not that they are always plain sailing. The ex obviously has issues and uses the kids as a constant weopon. Your partner may have to come to the point where he uses tough love and wont be manipulated by either his parner or chilren. Child support should be paid as it is an obligation to the welfare of the kids that he helped bring into the world. It is unfortunate that the ex does not spend this adequately. Tough love also means not spending more than is required. Therefor if the kids arent dressed for school etc then it is up to the mother to do this. She is not going to do her bit if she does not have to. The dependency upon her ex the father of her children is quite overwhelming I actually wonder if she still uses the kids as a means of contact even if the contact is not positive. Under the eyes of the law your man is paying his dues. Do not pay anymore. Pay to have the kids visit if she wont help make that the one exception only and as for the stuff left behind by the daughter leave it at your place until she comes back. Basically if she wants it then come and get it. Stop running after her he is with you now not her. Eventually the kids will grow up and make up their own minds re the situation. Until then there will be bumpy times ahead, be aware of this before you committ further to this relationship.
2007-01-14 17:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex wife is manipulating your fiancee. Unless he can deal with just giving her the child support and expecting her to make do with it and not buy extras, you will be going through this until they are grown. There will always be his ex and never enough for you and your family if you do marry him if things and these things do not change. Get custody of the kids and move.
2007-01-14 16:53:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a case against her and if you can gather sufficient evidence, you could win custody if this is something you're interested in. You could also have social services look in on her. You could even call and have them do this anonymously. You could also have an auditor draw up a report on how she spends the child support.
2007-01-14 16:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Forget It Jake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-31 03:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your fiance and his Ex I guess will have to work it out. If not...GO back to Court and let a judge rule* I feel for the children*~
GoodLUcK*
2007-01-14 16:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, are you sure you want to get into this???
Maybe a move. alot of baggage here. I mean with the "Ex"
2007-01-14 18:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont marry him!!!!! get out while you can unless you want to deal with her forever, you might as well add dealing with her to your vows
2007-01-14 16:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by Bombshell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider joint custody...or go for full custody.
You all seem to care about them more.
good luck
2007-01-14 16:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by D.... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the kid and stop talking to the unruly mom
2007-01-14 16:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by todd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋