I lost my virginity to him we broke up several times. I slpt with someone and got pregnant. he knew of the situation and he was in the delivery room and after the baby was born we got a place together. about 7 months after my son was born he moved out. said he couldnt put up with me wanting him to help clean cook do dishes that kinda stuff. now hes hanging out again but still acting kinda distant. he seems to prefer internet gaiming to anything else. I guess its obvious that I need to move on but I don't know how to let the bastard go. hes been there through the most important things in my life and for all of my adult life and really how to you grow out of it?????????????????????????????????????
2007-01-14 16:38:30 · 10 answers · asked by lola1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not as if i got pregnant on purpose i used condoms and its not like we were only broke up for a week it was a few months and i found out i was pregnant after we started talking again and told him it wasnt a good idea and he insisited that he could handle it and wanted to be there. im no slut and i take pride in the fact that ive been with lwss than 5 guys so dont assume what you dont understand
2007-01-17 05:22:41 · update #1
it just sound like you just need to let go. and move on, it normal
to feel as you do, he has been there for you, but you also need to
understand that someone that off and on is not the person that
you want to depend on. if he has not change by now he wont
time for you to decidd that you can do this once and for all
and move on. it will take time but take it one day at a time
and slowly you will see that you can do with out him. you deserve
to have peace and love in your life. good luck to you.
2007-01-14 16:49:35 · answer #1 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would possibly want to be precise, there must be something there. i imagine that love is redefined as you strengthen older and discover deeper meanings for it. What you sense received't be a deep deep, very in love type of love, yet its accessible that there is something about him that makes you sense better strongly about him than different adult males. you recognize once you want some one, yet I also imagine that typically human beings ask others what they imagine, because they are petrified of being in love, or do not sense waiting to love some one in that way. you've customary this guy lengthy adequate, you've had a concept of alternative adult males, and so a concepts as you recognize, your thoughts are best for this guy, not the different. for that reason, i might want to argue you could call that love. even if you recognize there's a deeper love available, and also you're basically not of the age to have it precise this second.
2016-12-02 07:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you sleep with someone else and get pregnant and this so called bastard is in the delivery room helping you with a kid that is not even his..Sounds like a real pr*ck to me. Now that he does not want to raise a kid that is not his you think he is an as*hole? Try keeping your legs crossed for more than one week and maybe things will work out
2007-01-14 17:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by mike m 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sound as if you are emotionally detached from him already, calling him a b*****d. I think you both know he is there out of habit more than love. Just break the habit and don't let him back in your life. Really you have to ask yourself, can you blame him for being angry?
2007-01-14 16:44:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's a fairweather boyfriend. If he's leaving over fairly trivial things like cooking and cleaning, it seems obvious he won't stick around in a really tough situation. You and your child deserve more stability than he can provide.
2007-01-14 16:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by World Traveling Woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm going thru the same things right now,, we've been togheter for almost 6 years. we met when i was 18, and it's so hard, cuz they show no commitment to us, but expect us to just wait around forever. i say we should leave. lol i know i'll never bee happy until i'm by myself again... i can't deal with the breaking up and getting back togehter **** anymore. and besides, it's been up to them for this long, now, it's time for it to be our turn in charge. leave him, and tell him to stay gone. i can't get the balls enough to do that myself, but i sure wish i could.
good luck.
2007-01-14 16:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Silver Thunderbird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been w/ somoene for 8 yrs and you're no closer to getting married than from Day 1; you need to move on. Simply put - you've wasted 8 yrs of your life. MOVE ON & FORGET HIM!
2007-01-15 01:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Reggie G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to force yourself to grow.
Take some classes, widen your horizons on social and intellectual levels.
Pretty soon you won't miss him so much.
He can be a "friendly uncle type," at some point.
2007-01-14 17:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are dating the same guy for 8 years and he hasn't asked you to marry him, you have wasterd 8 years of your life
2007-01-14 16:43:09 · answer #9 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You just move on for your sake and the sake of your child in the long run it will be better - pack your stuff and get outta there sister!!
2007-01-14 16:44:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋