He left his wife, i'm leaving my husband. Tonight he just disappeared and I don't know where he is. He cheated on his ex several times and I think he'll do the same thing to me. Maybe I just asked the question for conformation. I don't know what to do.
2007-01-14 16:33:09 · 33 answers · asked by Oops 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
once a cheater, always a cheater
2007-01-14 16:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I was a betting man I'd say the odds are against you anyway. Statistics show that 50% of first marriages fail, but 60% of second marriages do. Why? Because many times people are doing exactly what you are, leaving their spouse for something they perceive as "better". But then one day the fantasy wears off and they realize it's the same old crap, just a different face they are waking up to in the morning. It's been themselves all along that have been the largest part of the problem and until they change that they can't truly love and be loved the way they want.
2007-01-14 16:56:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, from your question, it sounds like the answer is yes. If you don't know where someone that you thought truly cared for is at this early stage of the game - I'm so sorry but he's probably doing what he's always done. Be thankful that you know this now, and not 10 years, 3 kids from now. Trust your instinct and believe in yourself. You deserve a happy life. Walk away, evaluate yourself and your life, and I promise.... things will work out in more ways than you can imagine. Good luck to you. Don't stop holding your head high. This is just 1 human being in your life. Don't let him even come close to damaging yours.
2007-01-14 16:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by happymonkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on his wife with someone other than you it sounds like a pattern. If it was only you he might have just fallen in love with you. If you are thinking he will do the same to you then I'd say stay with your husband unless you have a very good reason for leaving him. Take your time, don't do anything foolish. You don't say how long your relationship has been with this man. If it's longer than a yr. and you love him madly, then wait and see what happens. Just don't do anything yet.
2007-01-14 16:42:13 · answer #4 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pehaps he went to see his ex wife or someone else.....you are leaving your husband because?? You cheated on him or he cheated on you? And YES i think he'll do the same thing to you.....I would try and figure out what attracted you to this person in the first place when you're married...what problem(s) in your marriage that can't be worked out?? I wouldn't leave your husband if it's to be with this man you've been with as he WILL go back to his EX or move along to someone else and you'll be left kicked to the curb. You need to seriously think about what you're "throwing away" in Your marriage but I wouldn't be staying with this fellow*
2007-01-14 16:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the stock market, past performance is not an indicator of future performance. In human relations, it is. You will be cheated on. Hopefully, you are not leaving your husband for this fool and hopefully, you are not cheating on your husband. If you are, then I'm just wasting calories typing this out.
2007-01-14 16:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances are pretty high that he'll cheat on you. He enjoys the excitement, and once you become boring to him, he'll change partners again. He sounds like a chronic cheater.
I would suggest talking to your husband, or having marital counseling.
2007-01-14 16:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by Missing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my personal experience, men with a history of cheating will keep up the same behavior. I've been there, and I thought he would change because things were different with me. It took me a long time and many boxes of Kleenex to come to the realization that he wasn't going to change. Please learn the lesson more quickly than I did.
2007-01-14 16:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by World Traveling Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who cheat once will do it again. I've never been able to understand why women think that the man that's cheating with them on their wife, won't do it to them. And the excuse of "he loves me" doesn't cut it either... he obviously loved his wife too and it didn't stop him from being unfaithful and breaking his marriage vows.
2007-01-14 16:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by MELISSA B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-01-14 16:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chance is there. It's hard to know. sometimes we make mistakes to be with someone else. Sometimes it is insecurity that makes us cheat. we look for acceptance. In this day and time i think someone cheating is stupid...too many diseases without a cure....To answer the question....It's likely your mistrust is sound...that being said, run....
2007-01-14 16:37:42 · answer #11 · answered by mrs. savealot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋