2007-01-14 16:29:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I would recommend that she go to a doctor. There are several diseases such as endometriosis and interstitial cystitis that cause pain during sex. There are also several less well-known diseases that cause pain during sex. You need to be understanding and supportive though until she finds out what is wrong.
2007-01-14 16:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you need to be more sensitive to her or else you won't be having sex.
Secondly, she needs to find out WHY it hurts. She should go see a gynecologist - it could be something psychological - like she isn't ready for sex with you or she's too dry, the friction can cause her discomfort which is why foreplay is so important to women, or use lube. She could also have a UTI, yeast infection, or STD and needs some meds to clear it up, or it could be that her cervix is tilted forward/backward making some positions more painful and making sex more painful before her period.
Is she always in pain or only in certain positions? Is she more in pain right before/after her period? If so it could be her cervix and there's not much you can do about that but avoid certain positions. If some positions are less painful for her stick to those. She should see a doctor regardless to make sure everything is okay. There are many reasons why sex can be painful for a women, but the first step is to rule out any medical reasons.
Oh, and you can't actually hit an ovary, but you can hit the cervix (which is the opening to the uterus) and that can be very painful for a woman.
2007-01-15 00:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by liztruch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, your girlfriend might need to go see her doctor and get a complete female exam. Some conditions like endometriosis can cause pain during intercourse. You might also try using a lubricant like Astroglide to make things easier. If you are well-endowed, she might do better on top where she can control how deeply you penetrate. Slamming it into a woman, you can hit an ovary which feels just like it does when someone kicks you in the balls. You may also need to take your time and get into more foreplay; a woman has to be ready before you jump on her. Try out different positions to see if that makes her more comfortable. Good luck!
2007-01-15 00:45:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bandmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all try alot of 4play to get her really turned on and wet also keep some lube close by try giving her a message im not talking like a 1hr or anything just for about 15min so she can relax oral or fingering her before you just stick it in is definatly a good idea make sure she is good and ready then go to work slowly to get her use to having it inside of her that should work if not then maybe she has a problem and should see a doctor
2007-01-15 00:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by Sawyers girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She could try having sex with someone who isn't a Jerk.
If she's in pain, you could show more interest in that than in how bored you are with hearing her complain about it.
Actual suggestions: She could go to a doctor, as there are some (fairly rare) disorders that make it painful to have sex. You could spend a nice long time on getting her wet and aroused before sex: lube and cunnilingus are both highly recommended. And if she still has problems with penetration, you guys could stick to non-intercourse sex (oral, manual, etc), until she's more comfortable with sexual contact.
Bottom-line, if it hurts, don't force her and don't pressure her to do more than she wants to. Otherwise, she'll find someone she genuinely wants to sleep with and you'll be stuck desperately looking for someone else to screw.
If it isn't a health issue, it's likely an arousal/anxiety issue. If she thinks you won't like her if or unless she sleeps with you, she won't enjoy sex. If she is worried about STDs or pregnancy, she won't enjoy sex. And if she's just not ready (in your relationship, or on that particular afternoon), she won't enjoy sex. It physiologically takes women longer to get aroused than it does for guys. Keep that in mind.
2007-01-15 00:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by pippini 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Um are you even getting her wet first? It should only hurt if you are being selfish and just shoving it in her before she is ready. Just because you are hard doesn't mean your girl is ready or properly stimulated. Spend more time kissing her, rubbing her, take your time and don't give it to her right away. if you hold out and get her so aroused she will be begging you to put it in and then you will know she is ready.
2007-01-15 00:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by l'il mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh...you don't have sex. Easy as that.
2007-01-15 02:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by RCHAN<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋