2007-01-14 16:28:01 · 29 answers · asked by discover1 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
She needs to decide if she wants to spend the rest of her only life with someone she hates, and if she decides to do that she needs to find a way to be satisfied and content with such an arrangement.
Otherwise. she needs to get past whatever it is about divorce she objects to and get a divorce.
If, by any chance, she hates the husband but likes his money she needs to ask whether there is any integrity in remaining married to him just for his income and whether she feels right about compromising her values because of the dollar bills someone else earns.
Finally, there are times when someone no longer loves the person he/she is married to but believes he/she wants to hang in for the long haul for whatever reasons. Very often, though, that arrangement ends when it gets so bad it becomes clear there is no option other than getting a divorce. In other words, if someone hates her husband but doesn't want a divorce right now if she stays with him long enough there may well come a time when she wants nothing BUT a divorce.
2007-01-15 08:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, why stay with someone when you hate that person? I find that quite odd. Well, maybe you've got a point in there somewhere if we will consider the case when a woman has kids but despises her husband. I've seen cases like that many times and it occurs very often. It would be hard for the spouses to just keep hating each other and try to live normal lives at the same time. It would also be difficult to consider divorce because it pays a large, and I mean LARGE, amount of money for the process to be undertaken. So I guess they just ought to try and resolve whatever tension and conflict is in between them OR they just ought to file for legal separation (living apart but still married) as a last resort and try to compromise an agreement regarding their children (in this case, the children should be present when this discussion is to be held so that whoever is closer to the wife gets more time with her, or vice versa).
2007-01-14 22:18:27 · answer #2 · answered by tango_adamantine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That woman should figure out why she hates her husband,and try to compromise by changing herself or her husband in order to love agian.
p.s: pls specify why the woman hates her husband and why she does not want to divorce,this is important for us to give advices!
2007-01-14 16:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by smarttany 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well if you absolutely hate your husband you have a few options, separate for a few months and see if your feelings change for the better or I defiantly suggest Marriage counseling, it may help find out why you have these feelings for your Husband. The only other option is to divorce, no reason in staying in a marriage with a man you can't stand, all that will do is create a deeper resentment toward him and yourself.
2007-01-14 16:32:51 · answer #4 · answered by athena9980 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she hates her husband but doesn't want a divorce . . .
She is a hypocrite, a parasite or some other low life .
How could anyone give real advice to someone like that ?
If she hates him, she should get a divorce . . . Period.
2007-01-14 16:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Best to get a divorce. Something bad could happen, with all that hate.
2007-01-14 21:42:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wopuld you no want a divorce if you hate him? it sounds like you have some issues that should be adressed by counseling. Is it for security, or money issues? Get strong and find a man that you can really love, and be happier with.
2007-01-14 16:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move out (back in the day, that's how people who hated each other 'seperated' - she'd just move in with her sister or mom or aunt because of some real or created need on the relative's part and just never moved back in). At the very least, get her own bedroom and bathroom. Any space she can get would be good.
2007-01-14 16:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a rather bizarre question that begs a variety of answers: (1) Poison him and bury him in the back yard; (2) Make his life as miserable as she is so he divorces her; (3) Have an affair ...no several afffairs; (4)Take drugs so she can tolerate him . . . . and so on.
2007-01-14 16:34:28 · answer #9 · answered by morahastits 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling for marriage troubles or for yourself....I guess you dont want to be another divorce statistic, but if your husband is abusive or anything of such matter lifes is to short to be miserable...get out now.
2007-01-14 16:36:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋