I told this guy i love him. He doesn't love me or like me back. I keep telling myself since he doesn't love me back he's not the right guy. There are other fish in the sea but, I can't trust myself. It's like the guy has gone inside my head and made me not able to love anyone else. I can't get my mind off him. We are friends and all I just wish we were more. Is this actual love?
2007-01-14 16:04:06 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like lust
2007-01-14 16:06:54 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i'm fourteen and i am in the exact same situation as you are. i would not say, however, that i am in love-- just lust or infatuation. i doubt anyone has ever truly been in love when the other person did not love them back [but i'm not saying that for sure, so don't take it badly]. you didn't give too much detail, though...what do you REALLY feel? of course everyone says cliche stuff like that when they have a big crush...i think more details may be needed. if a guy 'better' than him came along, and was interested in you, and you two became friends, would you still seek after the guy you are talknig about in the question? in other words, if you 'take' the guy, are you CONFIDENT there is NOTHING lost? of course there are times when you get pissed off at each other, but think about the long run.
good luck! (:
2007-01-14 19:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I totally have the same situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How old are you???? I'm thirteen and I feel the EXACT same way you do. And this is probably going to be a very unique answer, but yes, it is actual love. If you loved him for more than a month without going on/off, then it is. Don't try to stop loving him. It's absolutely useless because you can't tell your heart what to do. It's not his fault he doesn't like you back. And it's not your fault either. LIke I said, he can't control his feelings either so just stop stressing so much about and let it go. Not the love, the question I mean. When you stop telling yourself to stop loving him, it will pass.
2007-01-14 16:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once heared someone say when you are young it is always love but it will pass and you are very right there are other fish out in the great big sea. You can't force him to have feelings for you so weither or not it is love you will have to find someway to move on. You never know what the future will hold for you so don't loss hope.
2007-01-14 16:12:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this guy isn't returning your feelings, then for your own sake, you need to pick up your feelings and move on. If you waste your time trying to make someone love you or like you, then you just might miss out on a wonderful relationship opportunity with someone who could be right under your nose and actually have feelings for you. Believe me, I know all about the "right under your nose" thing. My current girlfriend and I were friends for more than 2 years before we finally got together. When we did, I found out she'd had feelings for me for a long time. I almost missed out. I wouldn't want that to happen to you or anyone else.
I know you can't get him out of your head, and it might hurt sometimes just to think about him, but you have to move on. If you don't move on, you're going to miss out. Now, go get in your boat and hit the seas for a new fish. Best of luck!
2007-01-14 16:34:52 · answer #5 · answered by puckfreak02 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
properly, merely your age tells me it exchange into doggy love. i'm sorry, yet 12 is merely too youthful to fall in love, and 14 is likewise too youthful to be in love. you at the instant are not emotionally mature to comprehend what love is, once you're in center college, or a freshman in extreme college. it is basically a weigh down, and you gets over it. I easily have had one boyfriend and it took me a 12 months to recover from him, yet i got here upon somebody else. Now whilst i think of of him i don't experience something, I merely form of snort at how stupid i exchange into. you will recover from it, do not situation. you have the whole lifestyles to discover somebody you relatively love.
2016-12-16 04:57:59 · answer #6 · answered by karsten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was actual love then he would love and care for you deeply as well, but sounds to me just like lust, and not really love.
Don't worry, you will find the right guy to share your love with and spend the rest of your lives together, and grow old together, and experience many things in your lives journey.
-Danny
2007-01-14 16:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Danny 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that sucks something similar happened to me. but i didnt tell him i loved him i think he knew somehow that i liked him but he didnt like me back the same way and it sucked because i couldnt get him out of my head and it took about a year and then the next year i didnt see him as often and then i didnt see him at all and he kinda got out little by little. but i still think of him from time to time but i dont like him like i used to its just a memory. so its probably not love just a crush.
2007-01-14 16:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by foshese my neese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the beautiful butterfly you are....spread your wings and part seas with this fella. If he can't return the love... there is no way you should pursue him. Move on and find true love. Find that someone that have mutual feelings..Good Luck
2007-01-14 16:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by shonnie b 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Move on. If he does not return the feelings for you then he is not the one for you. There are too many guys out there that will appreciate you for you.
2007-01-14 16:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by justcurious 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it all just depends on how you feel around him. if you feel like you want to spend forever with this guy than its love.
2007-01-14 16:08:51 · answer #11 · answered by Emmaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋