Theres this girl who im sorta friends with. I have a feeling that she likes me and I dont like her any more than a friend. More over, my own friends dont like her and criticize her often. The Turnabaut (where girls ask guys) dance is coming up and recently she has really began talking to me more and more. If she asks me, I dont wanna say yes cuz i dont like her, and i dont wanna say no cuz im good friends with her. Also, im not gonna make up an excuse cuz i am planning to one way or another go to the dance. I was thinking of telling her that I wanna go as friends if she does ask me. Will that be fine? Cuz I really want to maintain my status quo with my friends who dont like her that much and her.
2007-01-14 15:51:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that before letting her become more and more interested in you, you should tell her how you feel about her.. tell her that you only like her as friends!!! That is quite important, being honest is one of the things girls thank from guys. But remember to be respectful and to try not to hurt her feelings, alright?
However, I must say that I think you are wrong when you think a lot of what your friends will tell... I know you don't like her at all, but you mention as if it was more important what your friends say than what you feel. If she is nice at you, I don't think there is a reason why you should consider a total disaster to go to the dance with her. think about it, right?
Good luck!
2007-01-14 16:15:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are not really sure if she likes you, its just your feeling or intuition it could still be wrong, but dont tell her anything about not wanting or liking her, it would really make her lose her self esteem, if then in case she asks you then just make her feel that you are going with her because she is special, a special friend and not someone you like, you dont have to scream to her face that you are just going with her as a friend, do it in body language dont say it,cause she will terribly get hurt and you will forever be remembered as the guy who told her that.plus youre not even sure if she likes you, just go with her but dont let her see any action or movement that might make her think that what you have is something more, just dont ruin the dance for both of you keep it friendly, and why bother about status? only weak men do that? status? what is that? is status more important than human emotion and feelings of others?
going out with her to the dance would not really mean that you are a couple, its just a dance, not a way to hurt others, whatever you do from a womans perception,never say that you are just with her because she is a friend, since you will never confess liking her anyway then no need to hurt her feelings
women are smart she will get your message after the dance without you telling her directly
2007-01-15 00:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about your status quo with your friends? IF you choose the girl over your friends' opinion and they arent fine with it, then they arent real friends. If you arent going with anyone else, then go with her as friends. Make sure that it's clear about the friend part. It's fine to go with friends. And who knows? You might start to like her. If you are going with somebody else, than tell her that you cant. And dont lie to her and say that you already have a date even though you dont.
Best Wishes
Alexis
2007-01-14 23:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Yellow :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I reckon if she askes you to go, just say that your not going to the dance, that way you get out easy, but since you do want to go, just turn up to the dance late and say your friends wouldn't stop hasseling you until you left.
Plus why don't you in passing comment ask her advice about a pretend girl that you like!
That gets the message accross nice and easy without ripping her heart out.
2007-01-14 23:57:25 · answer #4 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that sounds like the nicest way u could put it u know.. y dont u just talk to her and tell her u just would like to be friends and if shes cool with that than good if not then shell have to deal with that u cant help who u feel and who u dont u know.
2007-01-14 23:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will be extremely hurt! Do not ask to go with her as friends! Just say you were planning on going as a group with your guy buds. That always works and will avoid akwardness. I'm sure your buds will have your back.
2007-01-14 23:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Lady C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup,i think i've answered this question
2007-01-15 01:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by ♣ Jeany ♠ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋