I am going to the Navy in March, and I was wondering how it would be for me if I were to get married, while Im in. (husbands not)
2007-01-14 15:49:17 · 11 answers · asked by AfricanQueen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From the civilian spouses perspective, it can totally suck! My husband of 4 months is across the country and has been for 2 1/2 months of our marriage. I can tell you it is taking it's toll. Make sure you are on equal footing when you leave (I am assuming you will be going to boot camp right away) and hopefully you have been married long enough that you have a steady stable relationship. The long separations are trying.
While you are gone, be sure to talk to your spouse as much as possible while you are gone. Either by phone or email or snail mail, whatever. Communication is what will keep you together. When you are both far away and wrapped up in your own (separate) lives, you tend to forget to include your partner in some important parts of your life and if you aren't careful, that alone may make your relationship a bit harder. While you are together, things are of course easier. From my perspective, it is the time spent apart that really tests your relationship and your love.
2007-01-14 15:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a man, And from what I saw, Navy wives cheat like it's some kind of contest. I've been around awhile, the chances of infidelity are high, higher than I have ever seen, anywhere. On the up side, married couples get paid more, much more, than there single counter parts.
2007-01-14 15:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother's life and wife was Navy..and they have now been married for over 40 years.
My nice regular marriage failed...
It depends on the way you can handle lives apart.
I sometimes think these marriages can be better as you are not forced into being controlled by a partner.
Being female..you will eventually get pregnant..and that will change things too...
You will find you will meet a nice sailor...so don't rush into marriage before you hit the services....I wouldn't.
Grin!!!
2007-01-14 15:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Maggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been on both sides, active military and a Navy wife. Neither one is easy. I think the single most important thing is that you have two people who can be without any significant other for extended periods. And that's not as easy as it sounds. You need the ability to be really independent. I think my "aha" moment was when I realized that it was all about wanting to be with your spouse instead of needing to be with him. If you "need" another person, you're probably not going to function well without them.
A lot of people try and fail, but a lot of us thrive on it as well.
Good luck to you. Your experience in the Navy is mostly up to what you make of it.
2007-01-14 16:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Shane 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not that great if he is not in the navy only because you wont see him a lot.
2007-01-14 15:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you wont see much of eachother but if you want to join the navy you should but its dangerous
2007-01-14 15:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by rockerchick021 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pro-family
Con -away from family for months
2014-01-20 09:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by ENTRANCE619 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your relationship is strong you will be OK. there is often a lot of time apart from each other.
2007-01-14 15:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont rush into marriage.. you dont want to regret it one day
2007-01-14 16:02:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
full of temptations
2007-01-14 15:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by q6656303 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋