My 6 month old little princess does not have her ears pierced. I do not want to do it until she asks for it herself. My reasons are that it is not MY right to put holes in her skin without her consent and I also look forward to her excitement and beautiful smile when she is old enough and decides to do it herself.
Her mom and her entire family insisit we do it now. We argue about it all the time and they have actually told me one day I will come home and it will be done. The mom and I are not married, can she legally do this? If they did would I be overreacting by being angry...which I would be? Any advice is greatly appreciated...the enemy could strike any day while I am at work... PLEASE NO TEENY BOPPERS ANSWERING THIS QUESTION... I NEED ADULTS WHO MAY HAVE HAD THIS SAME EXPERIENCE OR KNOW "LEGAL" RIGHTS IN THIS SITUATION. Yes, it is that serious to me.
2007-01-14 15:44:35 · 14 answers · asked by El Tigre 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
By the way, the mom and I are together but do not get along for anything...any suggestions to "communicate" to eachother are pretty much useless, we already have our minds set.
2007-01-14 15:49:21 · update #1
She can legally do it. First off, if you aren't married then you legally have NO custody or rights to the child unless you've been to court about it. Even if you have, and have 50% custody.. it's normally 50% pertaining to medical things, schooling, and leaving the state.. not so much about things like that. I don't think there's anything you could possibly do about it, sorry. Try to convince her and show her medical reasons for why you should hold off (possibility of infection, etc).
Question #2 .. I don't think you'd be overreacting by being angry.. it's not right for any parent to decide their own thing and just do it.. unless it's something for the benefit of the child (and earrings definately don't better the child in any way).
My fiance wanted to get our daughter's ears pierced right away too and I felt the SAME way as you. She's now 18 months old and still hole-free :)
2007-01-14 15:57:59 · answer #1 · answered by Candikane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she can. But here's a few things you should make her think about first.
1. The ears have to be done one at a time, in case the baby jerks their head before both are done.
2. The holes WILL end up being uneven when she gets older. Noone has the same size earlobes. So if by some chance they get the holes the same; they will grow to be different levels.
3. She is risking the gun pinching her daughters face. The gun has to be held so close to the face due to such small lobes that this can happen.
4. There is very little area behind the earlobe. Unless she finds a place with real "baby" earrings, your daughter will have the same size stud as an adult. OUCH!
5. The baby may cry for just a few moments, but have the mother be prepared for passer-byers to jeer at her for doing it.
6. Infection. Need I say more...
2007-01-14 16:24:33 · answer #2 · answered by Silver B 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the mother can get this done. I got my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old and I was the only one who took her in and they never asked me for consent stuff. My husband actually encouraged it, while I was going through the "should I or not" phase. Well I have alot of friends who are Hispanic and I talked to them about it and they all said they do it in the hospitals down in Mexico, before the babies even leaves to go home for the first time. It's automatic too! They have to leave the posts in for 9 months to have the holes not close up and at that small age they won't mess with their ears as much and therefore limits the chance of infections. I remember when I got my ears pierced and it really wasn't the "thrill" of my days when I was younger. I wouldn't have really cared if my parents did it for me or not. She can always choose to not wear them if she doesn't like it when she is older. The mother probably just wants her to look pretty and cute.
2007-01-14 15:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Momma 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
in case your spouse is set to pierce your son's ears without or with your approval there is not plenty you're able to do approximately it. If she takes your son to any keep or kiosk on the mall that pierces ears, shows them his shot checklist in the event that they ask to work out it and could pay for the rings they'll pierce your son's ears without asking any further questions. You and your spouse rather do would desire to talk approximately this and attempt to realize a settlement you could the two comply with. Your purely different option is to work out a criminal professional and ask him approximately getting a restraining order in the process the courtroom to give up your spouse from piercing your son's ears. A restraining order is going to value your cash and may additionally value you your marriage. Why are you so antagonistic to having your son's ears pierced? have you ever defined your reasons on your spouse? if so, why is she so desperate to have your son's ears pierced in spite of your objections? those are questions you and your spouse would desire to debate.
2016-10-20 00:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes, Mommy can have her daughters ears pierced without your consent or blessings. Please, this is not a "legal" issue. It's earrings, she's not taking her out of the country forever or something.
You already know your choice in the matter is not weather your daughter will get her ears pierced, it's how you behave after the deed is done.
They know you object to it, they don't care that you object and are going to go through with it.
2007-01-14 16:04:52 · answer #5 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, since you are not married, the mother is the legal guardian and she can do whatever she wants in this case. And no you would not be overreacting since you have stated that you would like to wait to have it done. There really isn't much you can do. I'm sorry!
2007-01-14 15:50:07 · answer #6 · answered by Aaliyah & Natalie's Mommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mother would unfortunately be able to do it legally. I think she shouldn't do it against your wishes out of respect for your feelings and you would be right to be upset if she does. Legally since she is also a parent there isn't anything that can be done to stop her.
2007-01-14 15:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend didn't want to pierce her daughter's ears and the aunt took her to the mall and 'surprised' the mom! My friend took the earrings out and let the holes close up.
2007-01-14 16:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by sheila b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have no legal rights in this situation. It only takes the consent of one parent. Sorry.
2007-01-14 15:49:45 · answer #9 · answered by Meg M 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think legally it can happen unless its taken to court. to fix the situation sit down with the mother and explain calmly why you want to wait. no yelling no one will listen to it. make it about the child and not yourself. i think your right its not our choice baby's are born human and have the opportunity later in life to make decisions and some should be left to them.
2007-01-14 15:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by lola1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋