When people hurt themselves?

Question

doesn't it just make you sick? I think it is such a waste when a person does harm to themselves. Seriously, I just want to slap them sometimes, but I know that will make them even worse. What can you do with these people?

Answer 1

Well I wouldn't suggest seeing you for a pick me up!!!


Some of you people have to understand something...I was once very suicidal...I attempted to commit suicide four different times, each one more serious than the last...and the last 2 was with a gun and drinking bleach...that's right you heard me. And the last thing people need who are feeling like the whole damn world is either against them or falling apart so fast they just give up, is someone who is so closed minded like the person who asked this question. We do need help... and understanding. That is why I said I wouldn't send them to this fool for a pick me up...who wants to be around someone who has no feeling or compassion for those who, simply yet politely put, can't help themselves? I mean really, would you all out there want to send someone who is suicidal to someone who would like to "slap them sometimes" or feel it is sickening and a waste when a person does harm to themselves? Try to put yourselves in someone else's shoes, and walk for a while in their pain...then judge me for my comment

Answer 2

When I hear or see someone whether a friend or relative hurting themselves then I remind myself that this person must have a reason for doing what they are doing.This person has a reason. It may not be a good reason to us but for him/her it is a good reason. If you are willing to take the time and have the patience maybe sitting down with them and asking them why they are hurting themselves you might understand why. Sometimes a person that hurts themselves are hurting inside maybe from a lost love or family member and they just can't cope with the loss. Or it could be for attention that they are not getting from someone else close or others such as friends. Could be a medical reason.The fact here is that this person that you know with this problem needs some professional help.You alone can't help them professionally.You can talk with them and sometimes this will help for awhile but the depression is still there.I sincerely hope that this person is not suicidal because if you push them to the point they could succeed in their plan.Keep all medications away from them and sharp instruments if you can. I know you can't babysit them 24/7 but try to keep them monitored if they are in a deep depression. Some hospitals have wards for physicatric to where they can evaluate the client or patient. You might want to look into that.There are also clinics that assist with depression. If at all fails call the police if your friend decides to get violent with themselves or others. Hope this has helped.

Answer 3

nobody knows. nothing ever works. they have to bottom out like aa preaches. they almost always resent intervention and can easily trigger suicide. you just have to wait and focus on something else that you can help. they are that way. it has always been that way. some people just go off the deep end every so often. they get manic and do something harmful or fatal. they get really depressed and do something harmful or fatal. you are very lucky if you can get them to take some drugs to put them on hold for a while. sometimes ect actually does the same thing. the have to sort of forget what is driving them to danger long enough to recover. most are not so lucky in the usa. very dangerous to get sick here. many dead relatives and friends to prove it. us medical industry is a cruel brute. physicians consider themselves as priests and money is the end all. snobs and condescending and there is no recourse unless you are a ross perot to have a full time exclusive doctor.

Answer 4

“I cut my wrists so bad I had to get stitches. At the time, I told the doctor that I cut myself on a light bulb, which was true—I just didn’t mention that I’d done it on purpose.”—Sasha, 23.

“My parents have noticed my cuts, but only the ones that aren’t so bad and look like scrapes. . . . Sometimes they’ll see one they don’t recognize, so I make up an excuse. . . . I don’t want them to know.”—Ariel, 13.

“I had been a self-injurer since I was 11. I knew of God’s high regard for the human body, but even this did not deter me.”—Jennifer, 20.

“Even in laughter the heart may be in pain.”—Proverbs 14:13

“Generally speaking, these people are trying to end just their pain, not their lives” We are living in “critical times hard to deal with.”—2 Timothy 3:1

Why Do I Hurt Myself?
- Why Do I Hurt Myself?
- A Diverse Profile
- “A Mechanism to Cope With Stress”
- “Critical Times”
http://www.watchtower.org/e/200601a/article_01.htm

What Is Behind Eating Disorders?
- When Food Is Your Enemy
- Anorexia and Bulimia--The Facts, the Dangers
- What Causes Eating Disorders?
- Eating Disorders--What Can Help? http://www.watchtower.org/e/19990122/article_01.htm

"If someone you love has a mental disorder, remember that a listening ear, a helping hand, and an open mind can help that one to survive--and even to thrive."

When Someone You Love Has a Mental Disorder
- Recognize symptoms.
- Become informed.
- Pursure treatment.
- Encourage the sufferer to seek help.
- Avoid placing blame.
- Have realistic expectations.
- Stay Connected.
- Consider the needs of other family members.
- Promote good health practices.
- Take care of yourself.
- Some Warning Signs of Mental Disorders are also included.
http://watchtower.org/library/g/2004/9/8/article_01.htm

How to Find Real Happiness
- Think of Your Spiritual Needs
- Keep Your Life Simple
- Happiness and Self-Worth
- Hope--Vital to Happiness
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2001/3/1/article_02.htm

What can we do with those who habitually harm themselves ... ?

Offer them help & encouragement, while being realistic.

Some of us could stand to 'brush up' on ...

EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- Scriptural Examples of Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm (;

Answer 5

Some have deep issues to deal with. Talk to them to get them to open up,or get them some help. I'm not a cutter but suicide has been on my mind for years. I haven't been happy in a long time. B ut I plan to leave all the pain behind this year,even if it means being by my self or no where to b found.

Answer 6

if you are a "close" friend of theirs then you'd suggest they get some help to stop doing what is unacceptable behavior. Maybe they have some messed up idea as to why they do what they do. If you are not a close friend of theirs they will be offended if you attempt to mediate as they would call it interference...so, just walk away from them and busy yourself with interesting things in your own life.

Answer 7

people hurt themsleves for different reason. munchosin, they want to be cared for and given attention. its a mental disorder.

depressed people who want to kill the pain within, by attacking the outside. some do it as a cry for help or because physical pain is better than mental pain. its a way to control things. to release their pain.

and either way non of these people deserve your contempt.
they need thearpy and lifestyle changes- if people are haing chronic problems, those things need to eliminated

you can be sympathetic, non-judgmental, lend a ear for them to talk to you, give a hug, ect

Answer 8

I honestly am not sure why. It could be from sadness, or they simply dont feel that they dont deserve to feel good or something. I dont know, I did once, just to see how it would feel and how the emos stand it (dont get offended I didnt really know wat emo meant back then) but it honestly didnt hurt that bad, I mean i didnt really cut deep, but either way, thats what a lot of people who cut themselves tell me, is that it doesnt hurt.

Answer 9

I don't know but I think it's immaturity maybe they need to start teaching this stuff in school, not to cut yourself, it's pretty sad that these people do this. I think it's becoming a fad, and it's just so stupid these kids need to realize there is life after high school, welcome to the real world, time to get a job and be responsible and stop acting stupid

Answer 10

if someone is physically harming themselves (intentionally cutting, burning, etc.) then they are obviously feeling pain inside and they are in need of professional psychiatric help. encourage them to speak with a guidance counselor, or seek out a therapist.