how to become more talkative?

Question

whenever i'm with a group of friends, they're always laughing and making jokes. i laugh along with them, but i have absolutely nothing to say. for one thing, i'm not funny. and another thing, i really can't think of any comments to make. so how do i become more talkative around people?

Answer 1

Don't listen to hcarter, he is talking about kissing...
I used to be shy, just like you. I used to sit and listen to everybody else, wishing that I could be funny, like they were. I did this for years and years... Now, when I am in my early 30's, I have so many things to say and I know so many things that I learned by just listening to other people and, believe me, I do the talking now, the others are just listening because they have nothing more to say...
Don't try to be more talkative if it doesn't come natural to you, you'll sound phony, take my word for that.

Answer 2

I really don't know how to answer your question. If you want to become more talktative, that's easy. Pick out something someone is wearing like.."i really like your earrings" and that will open the conversation to other things. Then again, start by NOT wearing something, like a watch, so you can always ask someone what time it is. Or you can point to a picture or painting on the wall and ask its orgin or something. There are lots of ways to be talkataive but you want to be careful because as Abe Lincoln said, "tis better to be silent and thought a fool than speak and remove all doubt."

Answer 3

That is a really good question because so many of us feel the same way you do. Not everyone can be funny and witty but you can offer any group "you." If you are doing interesting things with your life you'll have more interesting things to talk about. People gravitate towards interesting people - so make yourself interesting. Get involved in activites that will make the inner you grow. With that growth will come confidence which will make you shine in a crowd. Celebrate who you are and don't worry!

good luck!

Answer 4

Well, there is nothing wrong about being a good listener. There is no need to be constantly talking (or hogging the conversation). You might have more to talk about if you read the newspaper and/or People magazine.

One of the respondents suggested that you work in a convenience store. IMHO, DON'T!!! Convenience store clerk is one of the most dangerous jobs in America (along with taxi driver and liquor store clerk).

Answer 5

One way is to continue to learn about what interests you...then when a subject comes up that you know something about, it will be very easy to have much to say and even joke about...If you hang out with the same group of friends, you will undoubtebdly learn what interests them...so you can cheat a little, by learning something about what interests them ahead of time...so when they begin their discussions and joking once again, you will also know a little about those topics, and undoubtedly have something to say...I always try this technique at work, since I work with such a diverse group of people, and I am always amazed at how effective it is...

Answer 6

Try joining a conversation that interests you most or you are knowledgeable at then maybe it can stir up your thinking and eventually start to put your own inputs or opinions on that subject matter of the conversation. Hopefully you will be able to be more talkative.

As I see it, the problem is maybe you are hanging out with people who usually talks about things that don't interest you at all.

Answer 7

You should start the conversation! That way, you get to control what people talk about. Also, you have to talk about something you know or like, then the words will flow right out of ya! Your friends like you for you, they wouldn't want you to be worried and stressed out about talking with them. If you know what you want to say, you can talk for hours on end! Trust yourself and have confidence that your friends will accept you!

Answer 8

Sometimes when we think of someone as a great person to talk to it is because they are a good listener!!..Anyone can talk, talk, talk..It takes a special person to listen and really care about what the other person is saying..Change??..No, consider yourself as another aspect to a conversation and see how it fits you..:)

Answer 9

If you want to be funny, watch comedies. If you want to be informative on a certain subject, read about it. Practice talking about it - tape it and play it back - see how you sound. You can volunteer to be a teacher assistance; be around kids. They are not threatening; you can talk freely with them and you’ll get lots of practice with them.

Answer 10

Good Question... I'm Really Shy Too!!

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