how can I stop my 14yr old from mouthing me off?

Question

My 14yr old screams, yells, and she is very mouthy with me need a answer ASAP anyone can help thanks.

Answer 1

sorry to say this (as a mother of a girls almost 20 17 & 13)
you cant - you can try banning her from internet mobile tv going out etc and it just dosent work, the best thing you can do is ignore it the best you can and do not show that it hurts you (which is hard to do as they do hurt when they are at this nasty gobby stage) i promise she will grow out of this and she will in time realise how horrid she has been to you. Trust me it will get better - but for now thats not much you can do.

Answer 2

My friend has a a daughter aged 11 and she has just started becoming mouthy and cheeks her mum.Its all to do with hormones that are about in the body at that age,and the way her friends might behave towards their parents.I would ground her when she starts giving you a mouth full,and take away the things that you know that she enjoys the most,play station,TV,no hanging out with friends,no pocket money.She needs to learn respect and to respect her parents as yo are the ones that put a roof over her head and buy her things and take care of her.

Answer 3

Oh my, you must have my 14 yr old at your house! Mine got in trouble for attitude the other day and she screamed, "THIS IS B.S." (not saying the word, just the letters!)

SIGH!

You can't stop them from mouthing off. They are testing the waters. I feel my 14 y/o is too old to slap or wash mouth out with soap... so I take stuff away. She got her radio, computer time, tv, all taken away, but given back on the condition her room was clean by the end of the day.

That's the only thing that works for me. If your teenager is like mine, her life is school functions, friends, music, computer time, tv time... take it away one at a time. Make sure the punishment equals the crime and make sure it's something you can stick to.

You have to pick your battles. You need to communicate your plans to her and stick to it.

I hear it gets better, but I don't know yet! LOL!!!

Answer 4

Honestly, I don't think that there's a lot that can be done at this point. This kind of behavior generally starts early on, and if it's not stopped then, well, a pattern is set. Then too, kids going through puberty tend to be a little mouthy, I know that I was. My Mom put me in my very quickly, though, and I eventually got over it.

Answer 5

If she likes something like ie computers , going out with her Friends etc take all her pleasures away and be consistant.
Or try to sit down and have a talk with her and ask her if shes having any problems.
If that doesn't help i cant suggest anything else good luck!!!
from mother of a 16 year old girl.

Answer 6

take away her privilages, like allowance, telephone and tv. ground her so she can't go out with friends.

you can't be easy, you have to be 100%. unacceptable behaviour must ALWAYS be punished. regardless of when, where or what about. same goes for other caregivers (father/stepfather, aunts and uncles. tell her teachers the same) she'll scream and say she hates you at first, so be prepared, but in a few months time, you should see improvement.

good luck!

Answer 7

Part all the pent up stress of hr age and dealing with everything, part trying to assert herslef and separate for growing up. Part trying to assert dominance.


However things like her baby photos sitting on the potty, her teddy, you comming in and mothering her, wiping her face, bringing her packed lunch, making her where a really unsexy ankle lenght dress with teddy bears on it etc would be her worst nightmare in school which would kill her cred

And useful blackmail to threaten her with.

That and you calling out has she taken her std medicine as the school gates

Answer 8

First ask he what the heck her problem is...

Is something bugging her? Is something going on with your family (you know step-dad or step-mom thing...)? or did this just come out of the blue?

First of all be strong dont take crap and ban priveleges. Second of all show no sadness. ok sorry but this is the best piece of advice I can give.

You know if you get angry you can certainly tell her shes immature for doing this ridicoulous non sence.

Answer 9

My sister used to back talk my mama a lot and one day my mama just got so fed up with it she slapped her face. My mama later apologized to her but my sister didn't back talk her any more after that. If you don't want to slap her than spank her. If you slap her she might say that she will report you, just tell her you don't care, you don't want a smart mouthed child living with you anyway. She will only say this to try to hurt your feelings. Once she sees that you are that serious about her watching what she says she will straighten up. If you do try this y'all might have to work on it. Like if she says something smart mouthed tell her and then go by her reaction to you pointing it out to her. If she says oh sorry I didn't mean to just tell her to watch it but if she keeps back talking spank her every time she does it.

Answer 10

I am 17 been there done that... believe me if you taking stuff away, eventually she will find a way to get it back herself, you cant force soup in her mouth, and if you hit her she will hit back, i am not saying they will happen right away but it eventually will. You need to stay really really calm and dont yell back she will get so frustated because you arent getting mad about it. But dont do stuff that will make her rebel even more.