I live in CA and my girl lives in WA. She left a year ago and we only knew each other as friends. I had a huge crush on her, but I didn't know whether to really try to get to know her, since she had 4 past relationships already. When she left, I gave her my number and she gave me hers. She called me a long while back, and we actually started talking. Our conversations reached up to 3 hours at a time, and I found out that she had had a crush on me! I was disappointed I didn't take the chance earlier. Even without seeing each other (I haven't even seen her picture) for a year, we've confessed enough and we love each other. She plans to come down in th summer, and she's asked for s3x, no strings attached. I really love this girl and I've asked her sexual questions, and vice versa, but she wants me and has asked me to actually go inside her. I believe in marriage and I don't want to ruin her virginity, but she's had s3x before with my friend. What should I do? I want a loving relationship.
2007-01-14 15:35:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
When you see her again, don't rush things, if the moment comes, it comes, don't force it. In a loving relationship there should be a balance between sexual, and emotional, not just emotional. How could you ruin her virginity if she has had s3x before? If she has asked you to have s3x with her and you want it too, then you should. Just don't ruin your relationship over it.
2007-01-14 15:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the lines of communication open.
I was in a relationship for 5 years and had 2 children. I hit a rough spot in the relationship. I mean it wasn't moving forward. I needed to get away. I found myself in my car and I drove from Pa to Va. There is where I met the man of my dreams. I went to his doorstep and we had the time of our lives. It lasted for 1 week. I felt like I was in heaven. Anyhow, it could've been a one night stand, but he called, I called, he wrote, I wrote, I visited, he visited. After 3 months of agony of being away from this man that I longed to be with. It happened. He moved me and my two children to Va. We now have a child of our own together as well. Here it is 9 years later. We have our ups and downs, but we're still together. I have to say make the best of it while she is there. Enjoy each others company and get to know each others likes and dislikes. I wish you well. All things are possible.
2007-01-14 23:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it easy. Don't commit to anything. If she comes to see you do what comes naturally. I can't believe somebody asking for sex. It should be something that just happens or not. Asking for it seems cold and calculating, a turn off.
2007-01-14 23:46:03 · answer #3 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell her how you truly feel. She may even feel the same way about you, but you will never know unless you tell her, its better that you try and give yourself the chance than to not know.
2007-01-14 23:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she really liked you she would want strings attached, but enjoy for now. Lightly
2007-01-14 23:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart on this one.
Good Luck
2007-01-14 23:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋