MY Boyfriend bought me an engagement ring, but 2 weeks prior said, i want revenge on you, & will not be satisf
ied until i get it. what does this mean than why would he ask 2 marry me?
2007-01-14 15:30:31 · 42 answers · asked by newport l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
he has hit me several times in the past too.
2007-01-14 15:31:17 · update #1
No No No No No. If he abuses you now, he'll kill you after the I do's. He's a control freak, and your life will be akin to prison. Mail the ring back to him, and run as far and as fast as you can away from him. If you have to get a restraining order on him. What ever you do, DO NOT say I do to this man.
2007-01-14 15:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him yes, tell him you've been thinking about it and your not sure he's ready, prove it to you when he thinks he's ready (test the while revenge thing don't fall for his mind games, he'd have to be like melitious to go further if he isn't for real). I don't think you should merry him once a guy hurts you it'll never stop he'll think he can like he has a right, feel bad, it's a bad serious cycle. But if you think he's worth it go right ahead people get what they want and always think can change the other person when the truth is you need the changing to realize you deserve something better or they LOVE the person, there is always better guys out there even if you weren't to find him right there is always fun along the way.
2007-01-14 15:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by angieroo33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
will i would have to say give the ring back and get far away from this nut. No one should stay in a relationship were one hits the other one if you stayed with him it sounds like he would keep up with his abuse and that's just what he is doing to you right now by playing head games i beg you get out of this relationship now you deserve better then what he is doing to you. And if he said he wont's revenge and will not be satisfied till he gets why would you stay around to get hurt.
2007-01-22 09:26:07 · answer #3 · answered by just gussing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, you need too get away from this guy NOW he has problems that you can't help him with !! He's controlling & abusive, lets just say you marry this creep & you have kids & he hits them or abusuing them in some way or another what would you think or do then is no different soo GET OUT NOW !! What would you tell a friend if her boyfriend hit her & abused her or one of your family members ??
Good Luck & Best Wishes
May GOD Bless You & Yours
2007-01-22 07:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by sweettexasangel12001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with all those who said to get away from him now. You obviously know it's a bad situation or you would not have told about the abuse. Why would you ever even consider marrying someone who has already abused you? Do you want to become just another statistic? Do you really want a life of pain and misery? Do you really think he'd be a good father to your children? Come on! Your question indicates that you are not in love with this guy. You are afraid of him. Tell your parents and they will help. People who love you want you to be happy. Not in danger. LISTEN TO THEM!!!! Take out a restraining order on him and if he comes around, use it. Men who beat women are cowards. Find a family member or friend out of town to go stay with for awhile. If you marry him, you will always want out. There is some really good man out there waiting to meet you. Waiting for you to get away from this creep.
Maybe this is just a test for you to decide if you can be strong. If you handle this situation correctly, just think of what you can face. Love is not jealousy, fear or pain. (contrary to some popular music) Those are all bad and dangerous things. He doesn't love you, he wants to own and control you. I cannot tell you how bad your life will be, but trust me. I know and it took me 18 years to escape!
2007-01-14 16:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he touches you again call the cops and take pictures of your injurys to show the court.
No man should ever hit you and there is no way he will stop there.
Just think of how much more he will hit you and say these things if your married.
He loves you but not enough to respect your choices and he should of never hit you or said those things.
He thinks of you as more of an object than a girlfriend(he thinks he owns you)
Just be careful and dont fall under peer pressure
2007-01-14 15:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by TheNiceGuy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do dont marry him. If he's hit you in the past he will continue to hit you if you get married. Dont go for it. That will only result in an abusive marriage and you dont want that. You deserve way better than that. You deserve a boyfriend/ husband that will respect and love you and not hit you. DONT MARRY HIM. . .
2007-01-22 02:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by D21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope that you are not planning on marrying a guy like that. If he is hitting you then that is abuse and it could get worse if you were married to him. Love does not mean abuse. I was once married to a man who mentally abused me for a lot of years. He did not abuse me until we were married. We are now divorced. Men who abuse women are not worth it. I also had 3 children who grew up in an abusive home. It was a hard way to live.
2007-01-14 15:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you going to marry someone like that? Dude, DON'T do it. Seriously, he probaly wants to marry you to make your life a living hell. If he didn't mean it, he shouldn't have said it. Don't dig your own grave. Why are you still with him? You're worth a lot more than being with someone that treats you that way. Get help. Ask him why he said that. Good luck, and be 210% sure on everything you do & are going to do.
2007-01-14 15:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any man who has hit you does not deserve you or your love, and does not really love you; he only loves the control he has over you, and he only has that control if you allow him to have it. Get away from this man. Do not marry him. Involve the police if you have to. You are right about one thing - your life depends on it. Run, do not walk, run away from this situation as fast as you can, no matter how much you think you love him.
2007-01-14 15:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by telaine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋