My wife is addicted to these machines.it contributed to a separation numerous fights etc
we have since got back together she wants me to buy new house which was partly my idea too but i struggle with the fact of a bigger mortgage & her with this problem.she swears blind that she will quit but i just dont know.My heart says Yes but my head says No.
I long for the day when we are all back together but dont feel as though she is commited to this as i am.I feel as though she will say anything to get what she wants and then revert back once it happens
2007-01-14 15:22:47 · 4 answers · asked by 69frustrated69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to your head . . . do not buy a bigger house . . . why do you need it . . . it would cause more problems especially when she didn't take any action to try to stop.
She promises, but people with addiction cannot help it . . . they will break promises. Contact Gambler's Anonymous . . . here is their webpage . . . http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ They have offices world wide . . .
Don't buy a new house and used the money for the house for her treatment. If she refuses to go, it is over. She doesn't love you, she wants the bigger house so she can secretly take cash out (equity) and support her gambling habit. I saw a friend lose his house that way to his wife's gambling habit. It could happen to you . . . she may have already maxxed out your current home.
2007-01-17 07:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is indeed an addicted gambler then she will say or do anything to get what she wants. That's the unfortunate part of addiction, you're dealing with her "drug of choice" not the person. Google search Gamblers Anonymous and check out the facts....the more you educate yourself on her problem the more you'll find that you CANNOT enable her addiction in any way, shape or form. Buying a new house would be doing that. Think twice, go with your gut instinct and check things out completely before making a move. Not doing this could see you in financial ruin. Offer her help by means of a program and don't do anything further until she "cleans up". The percentage of addicts that cure themselves is extremely low. Your wife needs help - now. Much luck, I don't envy you this situation.
2007-01-14 23:33:41 · answer #2 · answered by Justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, give her a chance...but with some ground rules. She has to get help for her addiction. You may even offer to go with her for support. Set a time-line for her to stop and stay stopped. If she complies with your requirements, let her come back on a trial. She may think it sounds unfair, but it would be unfair for your credit to suffer as a result of this. You have to protect yourself. And it will be for her good too, if she can see that.
2007-01-14 23:33:27 · answer #3 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want you to show your wife this and have her e-mail me if she needs to her it again.........My fiances family owns a business that supplies poker machines to bars so I know how they are set and operate...........YOU WILL NEVER WIN BIG
2007-01-14 23:34:10
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