My husband and I are opposite of most couples. He struggles with his weight, and I don't. I can eat whatever I want and will not gain a pound. He, however, gains weight anytime he eats something unhealthy. He is willing to diet, but I do the cooking for the two of us. I can not stand much health food--it just doesn't fill me up (maybe it is bc I'm so skinny and don't need to lose weight), and am always so hungry within an hour after eating. Is it wrong of me to cook health food for him, and "normal" food for myself? Anytime he sees me eating something "unhealthy" he starts pouting, and saying that I should be supporting him by eating healthy food. The problem is that healthy food DOES NOT fill me up and leaves me weak and moody. Fattening, or high caloric food just makes me feel so much stronger. Again, remember, I DON'T need to lose weight--I am underweight. Should I just tell him that we have different body types, and therefore, can eat different things?? HELP!
2007-01-14 15:11:06 · 11 answers · asked by lalagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sigh.... It's not wrong to not diet when you don't need to. But if you're eating very fattening and tempting things in front of him and he cannot have it..... Then that is wrong. You are tempting him and making it harder for him to lose the weight. I say don't diet.....go ahead and eat your goodies....But not in front of him! Go to another room or do it when he's not there. You do need to support him if he is going to suceed. And yes, if you're the cook....fix his meal and then fix your own. You do not HAVE TO eat all of the same things! There are lots of satisfying things you both can eat while he's trying to lose weight. Do some research on it.....
If you really love him....you'll be supportive of him. But he needs to remember that you're not presented with the same health challenges he has and losing weight could possibly do you some harm. And tell him to stop pulling that puppy-dog eye pouting thing and to be more determined to achieve his personal goals!!
2007-01-15 13:05:57 · answer #1 · answered by Brenda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very selfish. Just cook the healthy food and eat it with him. He wants to be healthy for you,the least you can do is support him. A part of being married is supporting your spouse on every level. Besides your metabolism will slow down and when you start getting fat and he's all thin,he won't support you because of your actions when he needed you. Stop being a brat,there are things that married people have to do even though they don't want too.
2007-01-14 15:19:10 · answer #2 · answered by lily_shaine 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you bake some chicken in the oven. Make some brown rice and lots of veggies. That should fill you up and it will help trim him down as well. Go for walks with him even though you are skinny doesn't mean that you are in good shape. Buy lean meat like chicken and fish. I think if you want to live a long life with your hubby you will help him out and not eat a cheeseburger in front of him.
2007-01-14 16:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to encourage him and cook healthy meals for him that will help him lose the weight... Have him try the south beach diet.... Try exercising and maybe doing taebo with him... they have these on dvd and it will get you both in great physical shape... Offer to go on walks with him... Talk with your doctors and see what suggestions they have as well! Hope this helps some!
2007-01-14 15:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is been selffish,if you cooking for him ,and you doing your think he should not make you feel gulity for something you have no control over,sit down and let him know how you feel and let him know the food doesnt work for you.now if he wants to walk or run that a different.but you eat your food and encouraged him to eat healthy so he can be around for years to come, without been sick.But have a long talk.
2007-01-14 15:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by hanagal 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont need to diet then that's great!
But if your hubby does then you should support him in his efforts......Just because you are not overweight doesn't mean your not in a high risk catergory for heart disease or diabetes or high cholesterol etc or other diesease's that can be bought on by eating high fat unhealthy food!
Support your hubby on this one, and if you must have junk food ...dont do it in front of him!!!!
2007-01-14 15:22:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think by you cooking healthy for him , he should be very thankful ... I agree health food would not be good for you if you struggle to gain weight , so he is gonna have to understand .
2007-01-14 15:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by klunk 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be supporting your husband and if that means eating healthy with him you should. He will just get discouraged and gain more weight. Don't be so selfish.
2007-01-14 15:23:27 · answer #8 · answered by ferrisfamily@rogers.com 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is:
that if ou feel confortable with yourself then don't diet, if you want to then diet. just because your husband is dieting doesn't mean that you have to with him.
but I'm only a 13 year old girl so I don't think I really know anything about that.
2007-01-14 15:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you dont diet you eat healthy and get exercise
2007-01-14 15:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋